Has anyone else had fears of marrying the wrong person or making a mistake? Like you are mostly sure, but still get nervous?

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Yes, but I am like this about everything.

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I think it’s natural to feel nervous about marriage. It’s one of, if not THE biggest decision of your life and it’s for life! Especially if you’re a naturally anxious person.

Also I think it can be a good thing because it means you are thinking about things critically and not seeing it through rose colored glasses.

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Agree with this except marriage can be and often is undone.

Engaged not married yet, been together 10 years, currently no fear.

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Maybe if we weren't together for so long. It's been over 8 years; no fear here!

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If you feel comfortable, can you elaborate more on your situation/your doubts?

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