Starting a new engagement in NY likely in Sept. The wife has brought up the idea of possible traveling up with our 4 month old on occasion (monthly?). Has anyone done this? Cont.....

I’ve always been a big saver minimum 15% to maxing out my 401k since I graduated college. I’m married to someone who thinks 6% is enough and likes $$$ cars. Other than the cars, they dont really spend money. For the married 🐠, how do you have the conversation with them that what they are doing isn’t enough? I try to guide them and say you want the $$$ cars but the salary you have won’t get there and you’re going to have to find a job that gets them the salary…. Then the fight starts.

if someone joined EY gds within how many days he/she can add their dependents???

in which month??

Need advice and help.

I have realized I grew up in a household where my dad did not treat my mom as an equal. He belittles her, is rude and convinced his way is the only way.

It is painful to say, but some of this shows up in me and in my relationship. I am starting to catch myself, and it to me seems to be more of a reaction than anythjng that is ever intentional.

Wondering if anyone has dealt with something similar, and any success in making changes besides therapy. Cont. in comments

Anyone else sickened by Amy’s use of her black kids as props? You didn’t have to tell us that those two black kids were adopted, but way to make them feel different.

Has anyone else told their religious parents that they were moving in with an SO before marriage? I did, it didn’t go super well- they disapprove of it (cont)

So… 3.5 year relationship came crashing in Jan due to covid depression, work burn out, lockdown etc. We have stayed in contact and recently he has come around to apologizing and considering getting back together. However he also revealed he started seeing someone casually 4 weeks ago and technically is cheating on her by meeting me for coffee and to discuss this. I’m upset that he’s dating others but shouldn’t be right? I mean, I did the same. Still hurts though. And I told him to sort that out

Dyslexia! After having our kindergartener son tested (privately) related to ADHD, we were told he may have dyslexia too (which would explain why he struggles so much with phonics but is amazing at sight words). He has a very high IQ. As a voracious reader, I am finding myself unexpectedly distraught that something that I have loved so much will be such a struggle for him, and worrying that it will affect his motivation and may steer him away from things he may otherwise love.
Tips/Commiseration?

Would you rather lick 👅 a porcupine or go back to your ex?

Hi Everyone, I need your opinion.
I met a girl 2 months into my 6month exchange in NYC. I enjoyed her company and we had fun together. She is really busy (IB) but we made time for each other. so it was late night and weekend hangout. When i was leaving to my home country in UK, we said we would try to make it work. Now that i am home, it has become difficult. I have lots of friends (girls), therefore i am always with them when not working, and she doesn't like it much as my ex is among (TBC)

Is bfs account Contract get extended or they simply release and we get bach to parent (cts), for another project is complete bgv happening or they just handle from their side?

Sometimes I feel like I am a drone that just works all the time and I have no friends.

Anyone raising desi kids in the US? What are are some of your fears?

I’m hoping to steer clear of any scams by posting & I know it’s been posted before but, again, scams. Anyway, I am looking for something that can be done remotely on nights and weekends after I get home from my daily in-office job. My sister passed away & I’m now helping raise her kids. With Christmas coming, I’m nervous and dreading the season not only to not have her but will I make it a happy one for the kids. I need extra income but need to be home with them in the evenings.

How do you guys make friends in a new town?

I feel lucky my family didn't catch covid19 from me- there is no way to really protect them

Do men in their 30s actually want to settle down and get married? It seems like most are pretty happy with their single lifestyle. Asking as a 26F who is looking for commitment if I should even bother

Feeling a deep void in close human connection after letting go a relationship that was lacking a future (I was interested in something more, he was unsure). Can’t stop thinking of reaching out and need strength to just stay with the loneliness and have hope for the better times. Would appreciate support. It’s been 2 weeks but I feel bouts of extreme sadness and desire to have someone to share my life and days with.

What are some myths you all have heard to figure out if you’re having a boy or girl?

I felt like a walking zombie during thanksgiving, barely eating and barely talking. My family is small and I told them ahead of time my relationship ended. I focused on my niece and nephews, cried when I wanted to and slept from 8pm-noon for the last 5 days. Showered once or twice. That’s the best I could do and that’s OK right now. I’m back in my apartment, just trying to take it one day at a time, and not re read his texts too much. My birthday is Thursday 🙄

This bowl has been quiet and I see partners commenting on odd posts around fishbowl so I figure you need more fodder: partners, did any of you have parents that travelled as much as you do?

Dear associates,
I have 28 Lpa fixed + 70k variable in Cognizant, how much I will get in hand monthly after tax deductions?

I came from cts last month, I decided to go back @CTS. Let me know, when I can join cts once came out

Hi guys, I am planning to switch within Kolkata. I work as a Process Associate at PTP Accounts Payable domain. I have complete process end to end knowledge with a year experience. I worked on SAP ERP, Salesforce AP Cora and Savvion. I am from finance background. I have done my Bachelor's on Commerce with Honours from CU. My Notice Period is of 30 days.

Can you guys help me out here please?

I am eyeing for PwC EY Deloitte KPMG Accenture Cognizant Capgemini Tata Consultancy Infosys and others.

I have taken couple of days off to relax and I am planning to spend most of my time making my island prettier 🤣 It feels so good to play AC on a Monday morning!

TTC for a year, went to RE for a fertility check and SO and I are healthy. Other than the ovulation prediction kits, what can help improve our chances?

Need referral for fresher java role Mumbai location

Hey guys,
Hope you all are doing well
I'm writing this post to get a referral for company switch from TCS to MNC or any start up as a Python developer.
I'm well versed in Python, web development using django, AL and Data science.
I'm still improving my skills at my best.
Please do let me know if u have any opportunity suiting my profile.
Feel free to ping me.

Thanks in advance.

The unending cycle is for real. Reached my LeanFIRE number 2 months ago, yet I don’t feel satisfied. Still reaching for the stars… when will this human desire end?

Confession: I have a dirty mouth and serious swearing problem. I'm that coworker who constantly mumble swears and dirtiest words just flow off my tongue. No ones complained yet. Should I be worried?

After a week of vacation I’m dreading Monday already. Maybe it’s a sign….

Anyone on H1 quit and taken a year off? Planning to transfer to H4, and then start looking after a year. Current H1 is valid for another 2 years. Suggestion/experience welcomed!

Does it matter which interview date I select for schools? The last day offered for one of the schools is best for my schedule - does taking that slot hurt my chances?

Can we do 3-4 days WFH from outside India? Any legal/HR compliance? Anyone did that?
Thinking to do from Bali.

What should be an ideal salary for 10 yrs experienced devops and cloudops engineer

Taking AUD in 2 weeks. Got a 70 on Becker mock exam. Any advice I should have for these last 2 weeks, would be really appreciated

Hello fishes,

Please help i am Lead associate at 7 LPA CTC. Can I expect 10 LPA CTC in my next cycle progression/promotion.

Please help experience person.

Thank you