Student asked a question about my personal life that I deflected. Now I'm wondering...should teachers have a stock answer for prying students, or does it depend?

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Depends on the question. I’ve met girls who never dreamed they could manage without a man in their life because that’s all they see from their mothers, who bounce from guy to guy and drag their kids with them. Learning I’m single, went to college, own my own home, and have a dog as a roommate is eye opening to some of them. So I’m okay with a few general life questions. If it gets us off track for too long, though, or gets too personal, I’ll let them know and redirect us back to whatever we’re doing.

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I say nunya! I leave it at that!

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My answer is: the goal of our relationship is I teach and you learn. We can accomplish that better when you’re not losing focus asking about my personal life. I will share things but mostly stuff connected to what I’m teaching!

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I give them enough to know I’m human, but not enough to make them feel like we’re “besties”.

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I always tell a little bit about my life, my losses, and my success because I want the students to know that I experience things that they experience, and that I am human, too

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Depends on the questions... Children are so preceptive that if I am having a rough day they will figure it out. I think if they ask if I am ok and I lie then I am telling them that if they are having a hard time it is not ok to share with me. I want a safe space for them to be who they truly are. So I let them know I didn't get any sleep because of sick kiddos. They can then see me model persevering and showing up because they are important and in life we are not always going to be or feel amazing.

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Meh I usually do the same thing you do and just deflect. However they always try to find a way to get back to the same question which leaves me deflectin over and over hahaha.

i’m a super open person, i always answer questions unless it would be deemed inappropriate

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