So I'm the only black advisor in my office and I feel so out of place. I walk into meeting early and people won't notice I'm there and everyone wears really expensive shoes and clothes. They all have their cliques and then there's just me.

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I guarantee none of your other coworkers see themselves as white before they walk through the office. Hold your head up high and proud that you were chosen for your merits and not for the clothes you wear nor the colour of your skin. Wearing expensive clothes will not make you stand out in the way that you want it to, rather, try to work on your confidence in unfamiliar circumstances, perhaps even try to initiate conversation. There is strength in vulnerability but you must try.

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The part that sucks is I love my job too. But sometimes I just want someone else that I can relate too

I’ve got 1 black colleague in a team of 80. It sucks sometimes. I do feel a part of the team but it does really suck there are few people to relate with

Do you try conversing with them? I wouldn’t let what meets the eye to intimidate you.

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