Super nice guy but really no physical attraction - 2 dates done, most polite way to end things? Thanks guys!

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Ghost. It’ll be festive for Halloween 🎃

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What’s up with all of these transparent and honest folks in this bowl? Y’all don’t seem to exist in the real world.

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Disappear like most guys.

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Makes sense - thanks folks. Not a fan of ghosting tbh, especially not with decent guys...

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Be transparent. I usually text something like “hey sorry I didn’t feel a connection”

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I think the people who actually dont ghost are posting responses and the people who ghost are opting not to post

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You're decent OP! Let's date

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Say. I don’t think there is a romantic attraction for either of us. But you seem like a great guy/ girl. Want to just get a beer ???

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I had this recently. Nice guy. Real vanilla. No attraction either way. I said, that’s cool... you gotta do you, and I gotta do me. What are you into, though, really?

“Honestly? Puppy play.”

“...uh... so would it be weird at this point for me to mention I travel with my leathers and pup hood?”

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Ghosting is so much more work than just telling the truth. Let him know what’s up and move on. Unlike most things in consulting this is as easy to do as it sounds lol

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I think we need to see your pic and his . We may have a. “Friend “. For you :)

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A1 I'm 100% sure that at least 2/3 of the guys here are the same guys that constantly ghost me

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To be blunt, you shouldn’t have gone on the second date at all. As someone frequently on the other end, I assume that after the first date if there is a physical barrier, a second date won’t happen. At this point, “i don’t see this working long term” is more than sufficient

Bcg1 - horrible advice. This guy probably thinks he struck gold with someone out of his league. The last thing he will want is a pity beer

Just tell him how you feel, if he’s decent, why not try to be friends with him and help him find the man for him...

D5- I wouldn’t ghost you ;)

A1 ♥️

Deloitte 2 - want to grab a beer ;)?

Deloitte 3 - there is a reason I went on that second date. You’re assuming that i’m the hotter one and trying to act hard to get .. assumptions are dangerous.

Where ya live op

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