Team is considering a baby photo guess who game. While most of the team has a similar ethnic background, there are only a few of us that ‘stand out’. I have always hated this activity as a minority in the group. Obviously that is me, no need to pretend to struggle or call out how easy it is to guess. If I don’t participate, I may look like a spoil sport, but I don’t feel like playing along with this nonsense. How do I voice my discomfort to the organizers in a productive way?

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A productive way I’ve found to voice my discomfort about this game is just to say that having baby photos is a privilege that not everyone has, so I don’t think it’s fair to unintentionally exclude those who may not have them

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This has been posted before and the consensus was to submit an ultrasound photo (can be a random one off the internet).

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As a Hurricane Katrina survivor who’s childhood home was flooded (and therefore lost most of my baby pictures) I loathe this exercise. It’s always a sore topic with my mom too so I hate her having to dig up half ruined pictures. I don’t even know if I have any pictures before 2 anymore.

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I appreciate this! We talk about inclusion and diversity all the time, and a feeling of belonging this is a perfect example of us needing to consider impacts and other perspectives, its not always about race and gender, but the unseen as well. As I was reading I was like oh wow, how many other people will be left out as well (maybe they didn't come from a happy childhood or maybe foster care, house fires, hurricane, etc who knows there is a laundry list). Thanks for this perspective and will be a great discussion/additional readon to not encourage this the next time something like this comes up for me.

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Have we looked at this team activity from a DEI lens?A better alternative would be to guess celebrity baby photos.

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I would just not play and state why bc it’s obvious who the baby is. I haven’t been in a situation like this yet, but that’s how I would approach. I don’t think it’s something to be sensitive about mentioning or feel like you’ll be a spoil sport imo

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I may be an outlier, but I've always found these sorts of things intrusive. I don't necessarily want to share my baby pictures in a space that's already othering. Maybe I don't want to share my whole self at work, lol. Even though I know if I don't share enough it's used against me.

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Definitely not an outlier, you are me!

My old department did this when there were only 2 POC in the whole group. It’s so dumb, I don’t know how people can be so blind…

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I could just be a smart ass, but have the pictures in black and white so no one stands out or take it to HR

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Can you just say “no thanks, I’m going to be a spectator” or something similar?

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