That coworker who acts super friendly when the boss is around, and then backstabs you constantly. How to deal without losing your mind?

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You probably don’t have the stomach to consistently stab someone in the back, so absolutely blow their back out really well when the opportunity politely presents itself. Do it with a smile but swiftly. Leave their ears ringing from one firm clap. Then pretend nothing happened.

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I love both the literal and contextual nature of this statement.

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This is what happened to me! I consistently got blamed and told I’m not a team player. All of management love her but she didn’t even know the most basic financial concepts and used to put in wrong numbers from the financial statements and not take any accountability for it

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