How do I stop defining myself by my career? I can’t help but think of a small mistake I made at work for weeks…

Poll: What dress code do you follow at your home office?

Hey Nagarrians,

I have a crush on a girl in our office...
We sat together earlier in March once in office, but didn't talked to her much as she was with her team mates(she is in another team/project)

We follow each other on yammer but not sure if she still recognise me.

How to initiate conversation virtually with her?

Help!!!

How did you give notice you were lateraling to people you like? Particularly if you haven't been there that long?

I'm lateraling to another firm because frankly I think the management of this one is terrible, but the people (and individual partners) I actually work with are awesome. I've only been here for about 18 months, so I imagine that short time frame will make it extra awkward 😬

How often do you interact with your A clients? I feel disconnected them and probably should follow up with them more frequently

Working at a company and they can’t seem to hold on to their female, black and people of color employees. I blinked and 3 of the people who were in my onboarding class were either fired or they left. For context I’ve been in company less than a year and there are people who have been in the company 25yrs. I’m thinking of cutting loose before it gets to my turn.

I've seen some unfair treatment among the ranks. Advice on how to handle it?

What do you do when a store manager let's a cashier.walk all over the assistant manager? Dm isn't any help. I'm at my wits end! Store manager sticks up for cashier every single time. I've offered to give that cashier my keys . I'm so done with trying to do right, only to have manager make up excuses.

Any thoughts on how do we deal with an incompetent boss who you dont look up to and have no trust that you would ever get credit for the work you would do for him/her? Given that changing the boss is not an option.

Have you ever said I love you while hanging up a call with a client or partner by accident? You aren’t alone. 🤗

Anyone feel as if it’s hard to stay with a company when you’re the only one of color? (&young) I’ve work for 3 companies in past 5 years and have yet to make meaningful colleague relationships. I just do not relate to the conversation and just find it hard to picture myself being a long-term employee. I’ve had better relationships when working at wal-mart when I was in college. I feel it takes away some of the joy of having to go to work.

Recently I’ve been in the enviable position of receiving several job offers from other firms and attorneys. I am currently employed and very happy at my current firm. What is the best way to politely decline these offers, both those made via phone and email, without burning any bridges?

Is it common for a midlevel to gossip with a first year about another first year’s work? Is it common for midlevels to trash juniors amongst themselves? I think my office is hella toxic

What is RSM's dress code??? I feel so silly, I started during the pandemic and am headed into the office for the first time next week and realized I have no idea 🤦‍♀️

I'm not the best at coming up with lines on the spot. I can write good lines when I'm by myself in front of my laptop, but not when I'm talking with my CD or someone else. Is this considered an issue?

Sales folks - how do you introduce yourself on client technical and functional calls ?

How do you bond with your clients and prospects?

My boss asked me to take care of some of the details of a project for her—the stuff that isn't really my area of expertise. And now I feel like a shirker because I haven't been able to finish them yet.

I've worked with the client for over 7 months now and he still calls me by my dad's name
What do I do 😭😂

Working for a senior who is beyond horrible. She talks to you like you’re stupid and makes it sound like you’re absolutely terrible at what you’re doing. She’s made 5 other associates cry during her 5 year career. Got someone fired and made another person quit. It’s known around the office that she can no longer have a female associate, because she talks down to females more than she does males. I came along and thought I could deal with it but she literally makes me want to not log on tomorrow.

I just left a very toxic work place.
The crazy thing is they were just named the best local municipality to work for. It's upsetting. They advertise a "culture" but don'tapply it. It felt like a used car sales pitch, I was sold a dream but given junk. I am constantly replaying moments. I have read so many books and everything leads to they were the problem. How do I recover from this?

Learning cloud architecture right now so apologies if these are obvious questions: Best ways to store video metadata to perform analysis on it? I'm looking at AWS and GCP. Saw that Cassandra would be good for it, but not sure what the GCP equivalent is? But also I'm a bit confused on if Cassandra is just a DB and storage would need to be elsewhere? All help is welcome! I've been spinning my wheels on Google trying to understand

When industries refer to business intelligence engineers, are they looking at a senior level or entry level? Some of these job descriptions seem rather outlandish in terms of years of experience required like 5+

Looking for technical data analyst in Austin, tx (also have remote available) to join a series E startup. Need strong python & sql experience. A lot of data munging and cross-functional work. Love to chat if this makes sense. Cheers!

Which of the two contributes more revenue YOY then the other? New Clients or Existing Customers?

Currently 31 with 6.5 YOE and single . Should have NW of 250k by end of this year. (No significant assets in India). Considering this money all reminds invested I should have a decent nest egg for retirement. Have an LIC policy that will be worth arnd 50 lakhs when I surrender it (plan down payment for an apartment). Struggling to convince parents this should be enough for me to move back. They think I should move back when I have more financial security. What more should I plan for ?

Planning on getting married in a temple in the US. Does anyone know what all paperwork (eg marriage license, certificate, registration) I should be thinking about and how to get it done?

Anybody single in their late 30s / early 40s given up on marriage? How do you see your life progressing? What do you do day-to-day to cope with loneliness?

What are typical company policies in regards to religious observances? Would I have to use a vacation day?

I’ve been verbally offered a position at a new company, but the recruiter insists on getting a verbal acceptance before sending the offer in writing. This person insists on negotiating salary before sending the paperwork. Generic benefits, RSUs, bonus info have been provided; it’s all unofficial.

This is absurd. Am I missing some “new way” of doing things? Your take?

What health tech (or adjacent) start ups excite you most these days?

Kpi reply krta b h is group me
Techm need NPS account from kotak only
How to open a new one.

BigLaw M&A: what do you consider to be “big deal” vs a small and medium deal? For example, what do you consider a $150M deal?

A relative of mine passed out in CSE in 2012 with 80% but never worked before. She is looking to start her career now... Can anyone guide or suggest how to go about it ... Since most openings are freshly out of college graduates only.
Highly appreciate your time.

So, how we all doing? First few weeks of 2020 treating everyone alright?

BBDO laying off 30+ staff this year, but also buying their remaining staff Christmas gifts got me like 🤮🤡

I am starting to question my existence in this world. I have a nice job, decent salary, i work out and eat healthy, maintain my health, read 3 to 4 books every month, dont have any personal commitments (single), in my early 30s and things cant be any better. Of course with the exception that i had a real bad break-up with my fiancé 6 months ago. And i dont have any symptoms of depression, but there are days when i just feel like what is all this for?

Thoughts on Viibryd? Im on my 4th week and I feel like it’s affecting my cognition. I’m finding it difficult connecting the dots as I carry out my job and it’s getting me worried.

Does anyone have any advice on how to convince yourself life is worth it when you think it’s not. I’m a 28 year guy, just got laid off from my job, have aspergers, have no friends, can’t find a gf, why do I even try anymore at anything

Yesterday I officially got diagnosed with ADHD and MDD. I knew that I was feeling depressed but somehow getting diagnosed made me feel worse. I feel like I am a big failure. I had a mental breakdown yesterday night. This morning I woke up and cried for an hour at least. I had worse times in my life but this somehow feels like a trap I will never be able to escape. I’m so overwhelmed and lonely. Have no friends or family in the US. Don’t know what to do.

In an industry full of smart and driven people, I find it helpful to remind myself that I need to run my own race.

How do I stop comparing myself to others? I know I shouldn’t, but practically speaking I can’t help it... every time I open LinkedIn... and I can’t not go to LinkedIn coz I am job hunting.

I'm constantly stressed and demotivated for no apparent reason. Anyone else feel the same? What should I do? It's taking a toll of my health and my family life...

Random Thought: I love my therapist and I just realized the things I talk to her about I wish I could talk to my parents about. Which made me realize, is that why people have such close relationships with their parents and why they call them all the time? Are people actually getting counseling from their parents?

I almost self harmed but stopped by grabbing something strong and drinking it straight. I've calmed down a little but this is the first time I turned to alcohol to cope. As long as I don't mix it with pills it's ok right.... I'm deep in self hate & shame now.

Just started Zoloft. Can I drink? I know it’s I’ll advised, but will it destroy my liver or just add to the depression?

I try to mentally play it off like I don’t care or only go where you’re wanted, but it sometimes stings when a group of friends hang out and don’t invite you. Makes you wonder why or what I do?

Sharing some positive vibes! After getting a massage and a haircut, I felt so much better !!! Making small changes everyday!

Any CBd/hemp oil brands that has worked for you guys?

Anyone have situational depression? Can’t stop beating myself up over a decision a year ago. Basically missed out on a massive amount of money. I know this seems trite and i never even cared thatt much about money before this year.

So many other good things happened to me this year - got married, got a puppy, moved etc, and yet the one thing i keep returning to is this decision as though i ruined my life. Ironically the only thing ruining my life is my outlook and yet i just can’t stop.

What’s the thought that keeps you from giving up?

Abused and isolated as a kid. I have terrible memory. Like I don’t really remember the past few months except in broad strokes and memories of my childhood are more non existent than existent. I’m working through this with my therapist. Does anyone have any experience with emotional and memory repression? Curious on your advice

How do you detach your self worth from your job? I have a lot of good things in my life and generally like myself as a person, but if I feel like I’m under performing, everything else feels bad

I’ve suffered from workaholism for a long time. Thanks to a lot of great self help books and therapy, I’m no longer putting work on a pedestal and I’m spending a lot more time on self care and my marriage. But, unfortunately, I am now getting withdrawals, because my body is used to the daily adrenaline of throwing myself into work. It’s this terrible feeling of like anguish/unease in my gut, but I don’t have anything I’m worried about- it’s like my body wants to find something to worry about.

I was trying to figure out what my personality trait was a few days ago. It’s depression, my personality trait aside from work is depression

Exam tomorrow - super nauseous which makes me even more anxious 🥲 anyone get this and how do you cope?