How do I stop defining myself by my career? I can’t help but think of a small mistake I made at work for weeks…

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I found the same problem. Given that I sacrifice more than 60-80% of my time daily to my career, it's hard not to let yourself be defined by it. But this is an aspect I dislike.

My therapist says I have to find something else outside of work where I can ground myself. Either find a hobby, allocate time to have fun with friends or take care of yourself (travel, reward yourself, etc). I won't lie it's hard, but doing that should change your mentality, and that's the first to start feeling better. Then you will notice there are other aspects about you, that are more important than a job.

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Same advice by my therapist as well.

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The hardest thing for me to do has been finding hobbies lol. Everyone has such cool ones, like playing sports or going on hikes or knitting, etc. I’ve lost all motivation to do anything 😩

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Omg ME! I used to have hobbies (before my anxiety and depression kicked in thanks to college). But nowadays I can’t even get myself to start a new series or go back to my studio to work on designs…I just sit there and think about how terrible and stupid I am…I’m starting to think I have really severe adhd too because the moment I start a hobby I lose interest in a week…only thing I’m interested in is travel but (1) I’m poor (2) I’m paranoid about using my PTO..

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yes, think about different aspects of your life...career, family, interpersonal relationships, friendships, etc, and remind yourself that outside of work you are more than just an employee at XYZ company.

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