Thinking about leaving my job but I’m not sure. Would it be weird if I had a meeting with my boss to talk through this?

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One of the biggest mistakes one can make at work is to assume your boss is your friend no matter how cordial the relationship is.

I have learnt the lesson the hard way and never again will entrust anyone at work with these kind of heart-to-heart discussions :)

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We do not have a good relationship lmao

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Don’t do it. It could take you 6-12 months to find a new job and you’ll be walking on egg shells and under a microscope the whole time. Need a doctors appointment? Your boss could assume you are ducking out to interview. I tried to have an honest conversation and I wish I didn’t.

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I think it depends on the culture of your organization and the dynamic you have with your best. About 9 months after I first started, I met with my boss and explained how I didn’t think I was in the right position for me. We talked about my strengths, skills, and interests. There was a mutual desire to keep me within the firm and find the right position for me, so it worked out. But I only did this because the culture of our org is to make sure everyone is in the right role where they can perform their best. If you don’t have this, I’d start with a trusted mentor either in or outside your workplace.

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This is some great advice!!

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Don't do it. You're basically giving them a heads up to start recruiting your replacement. Could also backfire if they hire your replacement before you've found something or they could sabotage your performance and standing within the org

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Start with mentors if you have any.

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I wish more people that worked for or with me would have the courage to have this conversation. If someone is questioning whether they want to stay in role or with the firm altogether it's best to explore that with your leadership, mentors, etc. It's way better than just surprising them with a resignation. The reality is that surprise resignations create risk in the business you're leaving and that could do far more to damage one's reputation/legacy than being an adult and talking about your concerns before they become toxic. The others in this thread suggesting you will just accelerate your replacement are either in bad work environments or have trust issues.

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I don’t think it’s fair to put that burden on the individuals contemplating resignation; this is truly up to the people leader and their ability/inabillity to cultivate a team culture where people feel comfortable. The reality is that in an ideal world I shouldn’t feel more comfortable asking FB for career advice in comparison to asking my PL (unless I’m actively seeking an outside perspective). And in reality if I was comfortable talking to my leader about this, I probably wouldn’t have been in the position of contemplating resignation in the first place because that is the mark of a great team culture.

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As an update for everyone on this thread: last week I had a conflict in my workplace that, while it was 100% on me, was the last straw for me. I put my resignation in on Friday and am now making moves to pursue my masters degree full time (I was previously pursuing it part time while working full time).

Appreciate all the feedback and thoughts here!

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