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Have you heard the expression, there’s a lid for every pot? Your person is out there, waiting for you as you’re waiting for them. In the meantime, do all the things you love. Find new interests. Go to that party. Take that class. Go outside your comfort zone.
When you’re busy living your best life, your and their lives will cross paths. Your lid is out there, I promise.
Dear Abby probably was your boss
It's natural to feel hurt by what you overheard, but it's best not to confront your coworkers about it. Their comment might not even be about you, and addressing it could create unnecessary conflict. Instead, focus on your own worth and remind yourself that their opinions don’t define you. When the urge to bring it up arises, take a deep breath and redirect your focus to positive things in your life or supportive people who appreciate you.
There’s an actual term for this where you think the conversation is about you, and you always think the conversation is about you. Don’t assume. Again it could’ve been someone else and the reason they went quiet if it was someone else it’s because they didn’t want you hearing who they were discussing whether it was you or not.What people think of you is none of your business, what do you think about yourself? And I’m going to ask a question because it absolutely is pertinent – how old are you?
What would you get from confronting them? A very awkward conversation, almost guaranteed denials, and you are all likely to leave the conversation feeling worse. Especially if they *weren't* talking about you, that's a lot of insecurity to reveal.
The best thing you can do is be normal and friendly. Feel free to wait a week or two and then subtly drop in a mention of a date you're going on (real or made up) if that would make you feel like you are correcting the narrative a little bit.
Wait for the next time you catch something and just walk up and say “who are we talking about?”—make them a lil uncomfortable. People like to gossip because of their own insecurities and they’re probably unhappy in their relationships and would rather focus on those that are single to make them feel better.
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Two of our junior associates were cackling in the hallway and making fun of my shoes a few months ago and made it super obvious it was about me... lol I felt the same way cus they're both so rude, competitive and disrespectful and one of them is delusional about her importance to the firm and makes up stories about how she was hand selected out of law school to work there (she was just hired with the group as a summer... no one knew her at the firm...).
Idt they realize that they're not making friends... and that in itself will cost them. This is a professional environment and it's never just one issue with people like that. They'll alienate other people and take the L for it eventually. You don't need to do anything. Their shortcomings will bite them.
That being said, I have worked with men that their issues that come out in the workplace make it very obvious why they can't maintain relationships. If you're concerned about you having interpersonal issues, just address those. Lots of avenues to self reflect and change patterns of behavior.
Ignore them. Nothing wrong with being single, and rather be single than in an unhappy marriage like most people are.
It’s getting tougher and tougher these days for dating, don’t worry about and definitely don’t take it personally. Important not to compare yourself to anyone else either, don’t let it get to you.
I wonder what they saw in you that led them to that conclusion.
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Let it go. You didn’t ask them to clarify when you heard them so don’t let it eat at you. What others think of you is not your business.