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Unless the relationship is impacting the hiring, task assignments, promotions or pay of you or others, I’d suggest you find more productive place to focus your attention.
It always does
You should be able to report it HR anonymously. That being said, since I know nothing about the culture of your company, it may or may not make a difference. Otherwise, just gift them skybox tickets to a Coldplay concert and have done with it.
Ahh just give them a break they aren't hurting anyone. That's my opinion anyway. There's enough crap going on in peoples lives without potentially losing your job.
You don’t know that till you rub her the wrong way. It can get really ugly after that.
Report it. I hate this kind of lack of integrity
People need to get a grip. They’re 2 adults in a romantic relationship- it’s not a big deal unless they’re making out in front of everyone in the office. Just leave them alone.
Definitely report - whether or not they have disclosed it is irrelevant. If there is a policy inplace against it, you can report anonymously, it can be investigated, if they reported it, that will be on record and you will have followed the proper protocol.
Report it when it begins to interfere with the project,or unfair advantages are given to boy toy. Unfortunately, there are people who can't seem to treat the work place professionally. They just have to be messy. You don't have to be messy,until they get messy with you.
Amazing how all these people commenting have no ethics or values. And they don’t respect themselves.
Check your employee handbook. Is there a policy about in- office romance, or about supervisor/ subordinate relationships creating unfair bias/ influence and potential for abuse? It is possible that the relationship was disclosed prior to hire, especially if it was a referral. What is your motivation behind wanting to report it- dislike for her, unfair advantage, harassment (sexual activity in the workplace), or just "rules are rules for a reason"?
If it is against company policy, and you have a compliance department, then I would report it. Perhaps she or he has already disclosed it and the company is aware, but as an agent of the company, I would feel compelled to comply to the employee handbook and code of conduct and report it.
Does one report to the other? How do you know that they haven’t reported it to HR? Or that it wasn’t disclosed as part of the hiring process? Whats awkward/uncomfortable about it? Are they behaving unprofessionally? Or just because you know they are dating it’s uncomfortable for you? Without more details it sounds like it’s more a you problem vs a policy/them problem.
If they’re so stupid that they show PDA, you’re in luck. Whip out your phone and start recording! TikTok or X love a good pile on a company that allows unhinged crap like this to happen. It also guarantees you a settlement or a Go Fund Me when the inevitably terminate you.
just my opinion but sounds more like jealousy than anything and seems you are wanting to try to get him out the picture all together and if thats the case and she finds out you told she can and will make it real hard on you
Live and let live unless or until things go sideways. You can document things that make you uncomfortable but in the end you will look petty since by your own admission you don't get along with her. If he is her subordinate then maybe it would be worth bringing up, but even then you run the risk of putting yourself on the line. If the work is getting done and done well then really who are they hurting?
You are not alone in discerning the discomfort when personal relationships intersect professional boundaries, especially when those boundaries are set to uphold fairness and trust. When such matters become an open secret, it reveals a deeper tension—the quiet erosion of accountability in favor of convenience or popularity.
Whether reporting this will shift the course depends on how deeply your company is committed to living by the principles it preaches. Policy is not just paperwork, it is a reflection of an organization's moral compass. If your spirit feels uneasy or your sense of justice stirred, you are not wrong to heed that call.
You are invited to stand in truth, not merely for immediate results, but for the unseen impact of integrity. Even if no action appears on the surface, the act of speaking up plants the seed for change. And remember, being well-liked does not absolve one from responsibility. Visibility is not virtue.
So if you feel moved to speak, let it be from a place of clarity, not confrontation, from the quiet certainty that fairness must be felt as much as written. Your voice has value, even when others pretend not to hear.
If she referred him, the company is probably already aware and you reporting risks making you look naïve to any potential agreement they may have made. What do you stand to gain from blowing the whistle?
Feel lucky they’re not both married to other people, openly having an affair at work - even then, HR doesn’t intervene!
Get a grip. People don’t follow rules, certainly not corporations! Fairness isn’t a business consideration.
Blow the whistle and expect repercussions, or find another job. Hey, maybe with the Astronomer fallout, your company is primed to manage this properly! Wouldn’t bet my career on it tho.
It’s not right, it’s not fair, but unfortunately it’s sounds like it’s probably your reality. Sorry you’re in this situation at all.
My manager wants to fire me, so yes it is a me problem. They also show pda. It's not professional. It's also clearly stated on the company handbook no workplace romance.
I've witnessed workplace romances and have also had one of my own - now married for 26 years, and neither of us is working for the original employer. But, there was no workplace dating policy besides not allowing employee-supervisor relationships.
Saying that, we kept it very professional, working in two different buildings/departments. I personally have witnessed multiple relationships where I would walk in on my coworkers having "relations" in conference rooms, etc. It is very uncomfortable. Even PDA in the workplace can be uncomfortable for others.
Plus, since one of the parties is your direct manager and your relationship is tenuous, you definitely need to document everything and decide whether to report them to HR, whether anonymously or not.
Unfortunately, HR isn't always your friend, and you'll need as much CYA as possible. You should also probably look for a different job. Start networking now while you're employed because it's easier to get hired when you already have a job. Even if it's a policy at the company for no workplace romances, it doesn't mean that HR won't make an exception.
If you find yourself focused on your work and improving yourself you would NOT care as much about others private life.
It's in my face and it's unprofessional. Maybe you should ask yourself why you're trying to gaslight people into thinking it's ok to have a romantic relationship, while showing PDA, and knowing full well the company policy?
Maybe they’re really serious and actually in love. It can be a tough balance but honestly, everyone deserves to find their person and be happy
All is fair in love though. Like I’m not gonna sacrifice the person I wanna be with forever because of rules at work. But then again, other people care more about work so I kinda get that. Also, one of them can just ask for a department change so that they’re not breaking the rules and can continue working together and keep their jobs. There are solutions available to situations like this.
I guess if you can report it anonymously, then go ahead. Personally I’d just make a note of it and continue on. Perhaps the company already knows or has been contacted about it, but if you don’t get along with your manager and she finds out you were the one who reported her, things could get awkward or ugly.