Tips on managing the rebel know it all type?
Solid performer (got few things to improve on). Sometimes it feels like they don't respect my opinion or don't want to hear it

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I am counseling a person out right now for this reason. Very solid performer but their behavior is so immature I think he’s become toxic. I am not going to be the target of whatever “mommy issues” he is dealing with. Maybe he can boomerang back in a few years when he gets some maturity.

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Dealing with the know it all dynamic from a direct report with more years of experience and it’s annoying. Every conversation starts with “well in my experience…” even when they’re wrong. So I strictly offer my input as an alternative and let them decide, even when I know they’re wrong. My theory is they will be humbled when wrong and privately realize I was right; and no harm no foul when they’re right. I just don’t have the energy to go back and forth with someone who already knows it all. Some people just won’t be told!

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This is the answer I think

Gosh we're struggling with this too!

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Working with them on approaching things from a curiosity standpoint, and asking questions first, has helped me in the past with this type.

Also, to play a bit of devil’s advocate…is there even a small chance this person might be right about some it it? Sometimes people can get a little out of control if they feel like they’re constantly being dismissed. Not saying that’s what’s happening here, but I think a lot of us as women have probably been there (I know I have).

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F. Dealing with same.

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Maybe explain why you have your opinion and every now and then, only if they are in the wrong, you could say something like "mmm no, let's xyz please, otherwise xyz implication will happen"

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