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In my experience this would have been impossible. Yes, babies spend a lot of time sleeping, but that time isn’t consolidated or very predictable - so unless your job is one where it’s easy to drop everything you’re doing for 20-30 minutes every hour or so, I would not plan on doing this alone.
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Agree - every baby is different. It’s *very, very* hard to care for a baby alone and get the time you need for meetings, emails or heads down work. My infant was NOT great about schedules, cried all the time, and always wanted to be held.
I only survived by hiring help to come in so I can focus on work when I needed to.
I’ve been wfh full time after maternity leave ended and covid began (aka never went back to the office). It’s awful. I do not recommend. I’m exhausted. My husband is exhausted. My baby is 9 months and she’s crawling all over and harder to keep up with while on a webex.
Being a parent is hard enough and you throw in covid and work and f**k!! So good luck to you. Maybe 10 months from now (13 with your leave) and life will be better
I have an easy 5 month old and WFH. My husband works outside of the home.
I have my baby home with me one day a week and it is hard, but manageable one day a week. There’s no way I could do it 5 days a week and work. I would not recommend that.
I have a 5 month old. It’s really tough. Babies don’t really follow a schedule and they need constant care. It’s physically exhausting and it’s difficult to keep up with basic self care and keeping the house in order. Babies don’t really follow a schedule but Moms on Call has one that you can try to start and it helps a bit. They sleep but you need to sleep too. I work part time and it is not easy, especially now with Covid. I do not have anyone, even grandparents here helping.
Short answer- impossible.
A lot of it depends on the baby. At the 3 month mark, babies don’t do much, so as long as you have a safe space to put them (pack n play, etc) you might be able to get a decent amount of work done during the day. It’s just exhausting, frankly. If you’re breastfeeding - even harder. How flex is your workplace? Once you get on a bit of a schedule w the baby, can you work for set periods of time (when the baby naps or is just chilling in a bouncer or pack n play) and be off for set periods of time (when you need to be hands-on)? Would be great to have some formal hired help if even for a few hours a day!
Working full time and being a full time mom are different paths. Both are rewarding and challenging. But you can’t do both at the same time.
You will absolutely need a mother’s helper or a nanny.
Thanks everyone! I’ll definitely be getting some help after reading your comments. I think it will be best for my sanity 😊
I have a 5 month old and coming back to work from mat leave. Even though I’ll be remote she’s going to daycare. It would be very hard to work at home with a baby in my opinion unless you had help at home. I also highly recommend Taking Cara Babies for sleep and schedules.
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I found if I WORE the baby, especially chest to chest (mei tai carrier is great) and nursed on demand (throwing a scarf over their heads if I had to do a meeting, or just turn the camera off these days), they rarely cried. I can say this after multiple kids. I used a bouncy exercise ball at my desk to rock them into a happy zone while having my hands free to type and work. A midwife friend pointed out years ago that babies that are worn and fed on demand are quieter, and the article below proved full of good info. It all goes out the window once they get big enough to wiggle and explore, but the wearing and bouncing thing worked for me until about 6 months.
https://www.naturalchild.org/articles/guest/claire_niala.html
WFH is great if you have help. With my first I did a combo of wfh and office work but I had her in daycare at the 3 month mark. With my second who is currently approaching 6 months, it’s been HARD. My husband is juggling his work and I’m often left to middle of the night catch ups. Plus feedings, etc. We’ve been fortunate with being able to juggle and keep things going but like many have said, I’m exhausted. I have a pretty chill 6 month old so for me this round could have been doable if not for needing to watch the toddler too. But I’d agree with everyone that help is a must if you plan to go back and be present.
I have a 5 month old and my husband works from home and it's nearly impossible. I live in LA and we decided to go to the east coast to be with family who can help out during the day. I've been back at work now for a month and I was on the brink of being totally burnt out. Now I work late because I'm still working west coast hours (till ~9-10pm EST) but it still worth it to have the help during the day. Would definitely recommend getting help.
You will need help for sure