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After my initial offer I never shared that information again with anyone other than my spouse. I don’t see how anything positive comes from it.
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I don’t tell my parents as it always elicits a response about how they never made (combined) what I make, still managed to raise a family, had to live frugally (no vacations) and etc. On one hand my mom is proud of me, on the other it makes her feel bad about how little we had as I grew up
This^^ but assuming you can afford to pay for everything that comes up and start financially supporting them now, when you might be at the start of your career (high cost of living city, insane tax rates) ...I told my mom my initial salary, and my parents had made more than that amount in their lives so that wasn’t the cut, it was when I finally told my mom how much my rent was, as if I was *trying* to pay that amount for some luxury place, and it happened to be more than the mortgage at my home growing up in the middle of the county at the time (read: early 90s!) ... that’s when it got worse, because she assumed I had a ton of extra money because of my rent price.
My dad asks as like a way to judge how I am doing? He was always a bit overbearing growing up and still is. A bit old school and sees himself as head of the household even though none of us are home. I tell him because that is just the way we grew up- but I really wish he would stop asking questions about it. I know at 35 I need to just stop being a baby and say how I feel but I agree with op it makes me a little uncomfortable
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My parents finally stopped asking me if I was poor. They assume Mr. MAS pays for everything lol
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Outsider perspective , immigrant here:
Keeping salary as a secret is very American.
1) Families know how much each other makes in most other cultures and it’s perfectly fine.
2) Research shows that if employees share salary info with each other, they all are better off and the company is worse off.
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No. I'm not American... and we keep it private.
Asian country here. Don't generalize
I agree with your 2nd point, though. So, I do share if co-workers ask for mine.
I got into argument with my mom over telling people my salary before. This turns into my family telling outsiders how much I make as a way to brag or to hold over my head how much more other peoplo's kids make. After that, I stopped telling her and she knows enough not to ask.
Here you go, send her this link:
https://www.glassdoor.com/Salary/EY-Salaries-E2784.htm
My dad has done well in making money. As such, he measures success by how much money I make. He asks me yearly what my raise and new salary is, I tell him because I don’t care to evade. I am a JD/LLM and every year he tells me I should be making more because as a Lawyer I should be like $200k now in his mind. I’m at $128k now as a 3rd year manager. He thought I should be making over $100k out of law school, I made $60k. Just different times/perspectives. Plus it’s my opinion that as a boomer he just generally thinks money grows on trees
I wouldn’t tell my mom honestly. Nothing good can come out of it. Either she would expect more financially or she would brag and tell her friends - neither is cool in my opinion.
My parents already like to joke that I’ll have to take care of them some day since my brothers can’t seem to get it together. Because of that, I don’t want them to know my salary because they’re already planning on depending on me in the future. Everybody has their own situation!
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You don’t have to tell anyone anything. Simple as that. Your mom isn’t entitled to know this sort of information.
I don’t but they also don’t tell me how much they make. I know we make more than my parents do but they don’t have the debt we have (student loans) so their standard of living is frankly higher than ours. There is no need, in my opinion, to discuss salary if you don’t want too.
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My dad passed away when I was in college and my mom and I have a difficult relationship. I shared my first few salaries with her but haven’t since. As an adult I feel like it’s ok to keep private.
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Depends on your parents. If they need financial help then they might ask from you in the future. Then you will feel bad from not giving it to them because they are your parents.
Half of consulting is coming up with creative solutions to difficult questions.Just channel that lol