We're sharing with our families soon that we're expecting. Once the family knows, do you wait for someone to offer to throw you a baby shower or did you just go ahead and plan your own? My family is the type to throw things together last minute and that's not how I want my baby shower handled. Happy to do it myself but just trying to see if I should wait and see if they offer to do it a month or so after I announce or if I should plan to do it myself. Sorry if the question is confusing.

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A lot of this might depend on how far along you are. If you are announcing it to your family and friends early -- i dont think a month is enough time. Most showers occur in the last trimester. If you are so type A that you can't wait until your 2nd trimester (or halfway through it) for someone to mention it, then maybe plan it yourself if it matters that much to you. I also think this depends on so many factors like whether you live near your family and friends and people you want invited. If your concern is over whether people will be able to attend your concern about timing makes more sense to me

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It’s less about being type A and more so about not wanting something thrown together last minute. I’ve also had a lot of experience with them and events so just a wee bit worried. I do live 9hrs away from family so would like to give folks ample time to make travel plans

My sister offered very early, but still a while after I told her. (I think I told her around 5 or 6 weeks and she offered at 11 or 12 weeks? and then I had my shower at 30 weeks, which is early-ish for a shower). And after she offered, a number of other people came forward and offered to help too. My MIL said she’d been planning to host for me and ended up co-hosting with my sister, and a couple of my close friends helped too.
Which is to say, you’re still so early! I’d wait until a little before you’d need to send out invites to see if anyone offers.

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A late January shower for a March baby sounds right to me, with invites going out a month before then, or maybe a month and a half or two months if there are a lot of people out of town (I personally waited til viability at 24 weeks before invites). Lots you can do before then too, like putting together your registry and the list of people you’d ideally want to invite — which you’ll need to do whether you’re throwing your own shower or someone does it for you.
Congratulations and hope you have fun! 💕

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I wanted my baby shower to be a certain way, so I did it myself. Best decision ever! My sister helped and executed my vision. We outsourced most things tbh and focused on having fun with family and friends.

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My mom hosted and sent invites but I also had a large hand in planning it! I also agree that it should be towards the end in third trimester - I delivered about two weeks after mine for my first. Congrats!

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I agree with the above. Usually, showers are not early in your pregnancy. Definitely second half of your pregnancy, often in the 3rd trimester.

Do you have friends that may offer? Either way, I'd wait a while before doing it yourself, but have that in your back pocket as a contingency plan if it's important to you.

I've only "co-hosted" one, but I'm terrible at planning events, so I mostly let the other friend do all the actual planning (giving input where asked), but I footed half the bill. I think we both preferred it that way 😅

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My husband and I threw our own party. My parents are incapable, though well intended. I got a lot of help from my friends and in-laws. Best party ever. So much less stressful than wedding planning!

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I have friends that would offer to do it - just know that the family traditionally leads these things

Oh hmm I would have said close friends were usually hosts in my experience

I’m a bit (white, western) traditional about this but I would refrain from hosting your own shower. If no one hosts one for you and you want to celebrate, I’d host a casual get together and give people registry info upon request.

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