What does this phrase mean when women say "I want a man who wants to build with a woman?"

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We talking minecraft or Legos?

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Jokes aside it just means a life together. Man + woman working together to create a great life

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I see it as someone with similar long-term goals you want to work towards together and similar values. Be that financial, raising a family, taking care of your parents, health, etc. You want someone in-line with those long-term goals who can support you. Especially if it's something joint like buying a house or raising kids - that's no good if only one person is invested. At some point in a serious relationship, you've gotta become a team.

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Someone to build/share a life with. Similar long term goals around house, travel, family, etc

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Cross posted** This is a genuine question... I am a woman. I personally would not use that statement when looking for a SO.

But I am guessing they mean a partnership... where you are in the relationship together Vs. Everyone doing their own thing. I am not sure either... you should probably ask the person what they mean...

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Build a home, a family, a stable communion and a future together.

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It means that you’re open/ready for long term commitment

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That's a good question. I'm trying to understand what is being built.

Sounds vague as hell. But I appreciate your answer. Build a life together, technically I have built a professional life at my law firm, I built a personal life with my dog at one point.

I guess I'm looking for details of this "built" life.

Thanks again for contributing!

Agreed with the above - means to build a life together. I suspect this is coming from a feeling from her that maybe you are not willing to invest in her and the relationship or that you prefer to be more independent than she wishes.

My suggestion would be (if you are interested in building a life with her), including her in more aspects of your life (ranging from meeting your family and friends to asking her thoughts about clothing purchases for example). If you’re not comfortable yet, and she clearly is having concerns about this, I’d be frank and tell her you’re not there yet so she can make a decision based on what is best for her.

Hope this helps!
Sincerely, a woman who has made it her life’s mission to be extra clear lol

Thanks for the response! I actually was never told this or anything. I hear it a lot and have seen it on dating apps. So wanted to understand what it could mean.

It means they have terrible grammar and need to proofread

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