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Yes she needs to investigate
Ask the question or don’t. You sound like you’ve made up your mind and wouldn’t be able to trust him again either way so hearing what he has to say may not make a difference.
Trust is important to me in relationships. If I can’t trust someone, I can’t have a relationship with them. I also trust myself and my discernment.
Cheating or not, a partner should make you feel secure in their commitment to you and sounds like he’s not doing that. I’d address that first and foremost. His movement could be because he’s cheating or it could be something else but what needs to be figured out is how he can more fully meet your needs in the relationship. Also, how long has this has been going on? Is there a shift in behavior you can point out to him? Has anything else changed in his life that could be causing the disconnect? I’m married almost 10 years and have learned not to let the discomfort of feeling “needy” or “insecure” stop me from addressing what’s lacking. Talk to him and let him know what you’re feeling and most importantly what you need from the relationship in order for it to continue. If he can’t give you that, decide if you want to lower your standard to meet him where he’s at (not recommended) or walk back from the relationship and change how much of yourself you give. And you don’t need to snoop or do any of those things. You don’t need proof that your feelings are valid. Your feelings are valid and you already know it’s because of his dodgy behavior. That’s where this conversation gets pointed at.
I could not have said it better myself. And honestly my intuition/gut are never wrong and every time I have had a feeling like this, it has been for good reason. I would definitely say a conversation is in order and based on how that goes, I think you will know what to do that is best for you.
What are your standards for cheating in a relationship? Will you leave if he says he cheated? Anyone cheating that is supposed to be in a monogamous relationship is putting their partners health at risk. If you choose to stay and this person has admitted to cheating; what are the consequences for the both of you? I pray for your peace of mind and strength. Walking away from situations that do not serve you is the best feeling…. In the meantime; get to know yourself and what you value and your dealbreakers. Heal and do the inner work on you and you will have some answers along with high discernment. If you have not heard of Tony Gaskins on YouTube Check him out. Start with this one. https://youtu.be/h0fmNP8z40g?si=3NB4OXCyqmC3f4Fh. Watch it several times to get in your spirit. I hope you get the clarity you need. Wishing you peace and happiness sis. Most of us have been there.
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That’s dangerous If he is a narcissist person. They will physically or verbally attack you. God have you intuition. Listen.
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Folk here are gaslighting the heck out of you, making it into a trust issue on your part. You are picking up on a pattern of behavior. His behavior is very suspicious. Your intuition is going off for a reason. I’d watch him put in the password or next time you are with him, ask him to use his phone for something. If this man doesn’t give you his phone, he’s dodgy, you have your answer. A man that is trustworthy is open and transparent
I’m glad you commented this because people seeem to ignore PATTERNS is a thing and I don’t think it’s a lack of trust either. Her intuition is alerting her, not her nervous system.
It sounds unhealthy already sis. Even if he is not cheating- there sounds indicative of a lack of trust there and a relationship without trust is a slippery slope. Hope all turns out for the best ❤️
Leave. 2 years ain’t nothing compared to marrying them with vows contemplating the better or worse part.
Listen to your intuition, it’s always calmer, “you just know”.
Your anxiety however can stem from either old behaviors and it’s normal to feel that way because he’s showing you a pattern. Try to calm yourself down a bit and figure out what your body is telling you. As a woman, I already know he’s hiding something. Good luck
🎈📌 - I’d leave him alone. It’s already so much energy you’re putting into the stress of it all. Fall back & get quiet, don’t call put that energy into yourself. Go to the gym accept other outings with friends. The stress & anxiety is too much. He will either come after you or leave. & if he asks just say you are acting like you need your space so I’m giving it to you. A better person will come.
If you have the feeling, just leave cause who wants to read or see those texts or images. You don’t need to see all that and hurt urself esteem. Your self esteem and dignity is worth keeping. Don’t tell him why you are moving on. Just do. Let the next chick catch him.