What's the best way to announce a broken engagement to family? Driving to my parent's for dinner and I haven't told them yet. So nervous they'll be disappointed :/

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Have prepped answers for any questions.. I don’t know your family and if they pry but I’m sure there will be even lightly curious comments.
Maybe start with something like, “I know you want to know how X is/where they are…unfortunately, I’m not with X anymore.” You could either end there or add “There were some things we weren’t on the same page and long term wouldn’t work.”

Any questions on what, just say, “difference in opinion on things”. “I’d rather not talk about it today.”, “I’d love to just enjoy family time today and not linger/think on this.”

I’m so sorry you’re going through this.

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Who has two thumbs and is getting married?!

Not me.

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Definitely a creative response.

Been there, done that! The best approach is to prepare them... Set some boundaries and let them know you're going through a tough time and need family support on your decision.
Then when you meet, gently break it to them. Let them know the reason if you're asked. People will try and talk about reconciliation but you know what's best for you so then you can steer the conversation. Hope that helps!

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I've always found that those conversations are better done in the kitchen rather than over the dinner table.

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Just be calm and honest. They are your parents and if anything I think they’ll be disappointed for you, not in you. I’m sure everything will be fine. Sorry to hear you’re dealing with this.

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You'll be alright.

Oof, I’m sorry for that. That is a very tough situation.
You really have two options, I think: either you proactively tell them or wait for a question about them. It really depends on your personality as to what will be best, hard for us folks who don’t know you to say.

I mean ultimately they should be happy you are not marrying someone who is not a good fit.
Just be matter of factly and thank them for their support.

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