I just had a student come to me to explain she just came out to her mother and her mother took it horribly. She is talking about sending her away to boarding school. How should I go about addressing.

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Try to remind them that their parents go through the same stages of acceptance that a closeted gay person does: denial, depression, anger, fear, acceptance. And right now they're making sure you aren't like some of the Stereotypes they've imagined.

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This is a good question. Encourage this student to remember to love and respect themself no matter what. Also remind her that life may seem hard at times but it gets better.

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I teach 4th and 5th grade.
I am not out to my students and families.
I am a very loved and "popular" teacher at school for my ability to build relationships and engage.

I am worried that coming out or rather being outed may affect my ability to build relationships because parents who have issues will inevitably relay certain messages to their children.


Coming out in an elementary setting is different from a middle or high school setting I feel. Anyone else?

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