Why is everyone always saying dating is hard in every city? Maybe the problem isn’t the city — maybe it’s us. I don’t hear many women in their early twenties complaining…

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Because women in their 20s are wanted by men up into their 70s… see Bill and Jordan…. Women in their 30s and up are considered to have something wrong with them even if they don’t because why aren’t they married yet

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Hmmmmmm - aggressive towards someone on the internet you don’t know or can’t see… 👀

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I would not generalize, but I can say that many of us in our 30’s and 40’s have gone through highs and lows in relationships and “almost” relationships to the point that we are more cautious. Some of us have matured to the point that we know which areas to compromise compared to other areas in our lives where standards are maintained and we will not be moved.

There are those in their 20’s that have lots of baggage as well. It’s not always about age and time that create the baggage!

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Depends on what you consider to be “fun” these days. I’m not trying to be a skeptic, but this is a different world now. When I was in my 20’s, if I engaged in some of the activities that our young adults are engaging in right now…honestly, I might not be alive today to even write this response. Just stating the facts!

Because of the type of world we are living in right now, the wise person has to take a step back and really evaluate what is truly important. You have one body, one life!

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when i was in my 20ties i complained all the time as it was impossible to find a man who wants serious relationship

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women in their twenties have their peak attractiveness and their pick. they will get married in their twenties. the ones in their thirties have too much baggage.

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and now?

Umm, are you listening to women in their early 20s? Also maybe they're on college forums or Reddit and not Fishbowl. You'll probably hear about hookup culture and feeling disposable...

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I can definitely say women in their 20's in LA don't feel like LA is a great place for dating.

My friends in their 20's complain all the time

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Just my 2 cents.....You're words "early 20s".... What did you require in your early 20s. I'd hope you have a different mind set now (in a 30s to 40s social group) than 20s. The older you get - you are simply willing to tolerate LESS. In your 20s you may feel you have something to prove or uncertain of your "worth" a given relationship. In your 20s - you may be barely making it moneywise so you're more understanding when others are in the same boat..... at 30 and 40, nah- If I did the right thing for success, dont have a bunch of kids running around and I overall take care of myself, I think I deserve the same. Common decency is NOT so common anymore. It's just difficult to find genuwine people. That's what it boils down to. You typically dont start figuring that part out until much later than 20s. Overall - the rise of social media and people glorifying cheating is what has killed the dating scene.

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