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Rising Star
1) don't over think it. If it doesn't work, you're not married so the stakes are not that high 2) go to meetings and listen to people. If there is someone you resonate with and they are someone you'd like to emulate, ask them to coffee and ask them about their journey. If you like what they say, ask them to be your sponsor. They really aren't supposed to say no unless there's a darn good reason they can't.
Or if above doesn't work, just raise your hand at a meeting and say you're looking. Someone should approach you. See 1 and 2 above.
Pro
After I heard a gentleman share his story, which resonated with me, I asked him this very same question. He offered up his number and told me to call him the next day.
I still sober over a decade later and have had 4 sponsors, 3 due to moving away, and my previous sponsor spoke in an AA "dialect" that I couldn't understand, so I thanked him for his time and started working with a new sponsor.
I heard this early on, and I still fully believe it to be true: a good sponsor can't keep you sober, and a bad sponsor can't get you drunk.
Bowl Leader
As I’ve heard:
- Find a sponsor who has a sponsor
- Find a sponsor who’s gone through all 12 steps
- Find a sponsor with “good” sobriety; doesn’t necessarily have to be the guy or gal with 20 years, because those people can sometimes be “dry drunks”, but the person who goes to meetings, and likely has other sponsees and/or a service position (though not necessarily).
- And find a sponsor who has what you want; not in terms of a hot spouse or a fancy car, but in terms of serenity in their life and integrity and humility.