About to go on in person retreat and have struggled with my sobriety a lot. It’s better but not perfect and part of the reason I stay sober is the support of my partner. Would it be viewed as unacceptable if I brought my family with me?

34 and noticing that all my friends are friends of convenience - ppl from work, friends of friends, or ppl I’ve met randomly. How do I cultivate more deliberate friendships based on shared interests?

Dallas folk. I am replanting myself to your city and I am now starting to look into places to live at. Any suggestions on locations? Any recommendations on a good orthodontist? Anything else I should know about your city?

M927H will be on for the next 50 minutes until Nook closes. Have some extra recipes in front of cranny but mostly just opening for people to come visit. If you have an extra archelon skull...I’ll pay

Got Invisalign (Lite) today!! If all goes to plan, I’ll be done with treatment before fall. Any advice from those who had or have invisalign? 🦷😁🦷

I was devastated when I realized I had to cut my twin sister and even my mom to some degree out of my life in order to have peace of mind. It makes me sad I feel better without their burdens. ☹️

So recently my SO has been accusing me of being in control of when we are intimate (sex and cuddling). She says that every time she wants to I say no - and whenever I want to - she says yes. So it's by default doing whatever I want when I want. It's a gross exaggeration of what's happening - but does anyone ever deal with something like this? How do you say no to something like that - without your partner thinking you're just looking out for yourself or you're controlling?

Hello!
I'm italian, 26 yo and currently working in France as financial analyst.
Work environment is great, friendly and multicultural but I don't like the job at all.
Personal life is not so nice since I manage to see my family and gf every 30/45 days only. Colleagues have their own lives and at the end we don't hang out much.
My dilemma is:
A) going back to Italy at a lower salary with less growth opps but better personal life or
B) Switching my job here and hold on

What would you do?

Thx! :)

Anyone here have severe lower back pain due to depression or other mental stressors?
Had many X-rays, MRIs, etc and they find anything.
A specialist told me it’s most likely psychological.
How do you manage?

Are the rumors about a longer and earlier flu season and a hard Covid winter true? I'm not personally noticing an increase in patients who need prescriptions for flu-like symptoms but it seems to be what everyone's talking about in and outside of the pharmacy. Can anyone weigh in?

Just got married to a somebody I met through this bowl and I love him with everything inside me! Wanted to share that’s there’s hope for everybody!!!!

Is CSR still worth it? I already used the complimentary Lyft membership? It just expired. and I already used the DoorDash benefit. Their fees are going up to $550

Can you submit a climbing gym membership for a fitness expense with EY? It says extreme sports are restricted and lists rock climbing but is the climbing gym itself ok?

Married fish, when did you meet your spouse? Pre-career, when you were first starting out or when you were a bit more establish (at least a few years in)?

Did you/would you get booster during pregnancy?

My partner and I are not connecting at all. It’s honestly so hard.

So… 3.5 year relationship came crashing in Jan due to covid depression, work burn out, lockdown etc. We have stayed in contact and recently he has come around to apologizing and considering getting back together. However he also revealed he started seeing someone casually 4 weeks ago and technically is cheating on her by meeting me for coffee and to discuss this. I’m upset that he’s dating others but shouldn’t be right? I mean, I did the same. Still hurts though. And I told him to sort that out

Only divorce services for uncontested and amicable divorces

Can anyone recommend a good psychiatrist who handles medication that isn't crazy expensive. Thanks!

Please like 11 to open dms.

Hi Fishes! I am searching for an opportunity in Financial Planning and Analysis role (Finance) with 7.7 years of experience. Any leads ? Appreciations in advance !!

Anyone else get crazy anxious before a big meeting or presentation? How do you cope?

Mercedes Owners: do you take your car in for Schedule B Service? $500+ for what it includes seems like a bit of a scam and wondering if I'm good just taking it in for an oil change. I assume they'll find anything that needs fixing/changing so they can charge me separately.

Recommend a nice business movie like wolves of wall street.

Water filters HSA eligible?

Good places to go in December? I was thinking Portugal - but heard it gets cold cold. Any other recommendations?

Let’s talk insurance benefits? This company offered a 70:30 split during negotiation… turns out they only pay 30% for a max of $150/month

Hey I was informed my position was eliminated due to corp restructure. I am a marketing vet with 10 years diverse experience from social to email and both b2b and b2c marketing. I also am about to complete my mba. I love to tell a brands story. Looking for a position at a people first company marketing manager positions or above in Atlanta or remote thanks for your help.

How much are we expected to lose in this VPB post tax? Any ballpark percentage estimate?

Is a cover letter necessary?

Big law for 8 years (litigation/antitrust) and have never enjoyed the work. It’s too late to try a new practice area and am thinking about either leaving the law or going in house. Any non law ideas?

Hi guys, i am new to automation.
Is it possible to automate a software (not browser automation)?

Eg. Can be suppose ms word we can go to any menu item and sub menu item etc.

What should be the expected salary in Thougtworks for 9 years YOE?

Skills : Full Stack .Net Development with Azure

I started working for a bank and am going through the background check. They found an arrest which was dismissed and the file was sealed a few days after the check. They’re requesting the police report on top of the court order to seal. The police report is BAD. During the arrest (DUI) they wrote the report to make me seem like a complete lunatic. Embellished on several elements of the case. I am worried that giving them this report will cause me to be let go.

Had a really bad day 😞 I don’t know why I keep doing this to myself. Things will be going well and then out of nowhere I get blackout drunk. I am tired of feeling sick and anxious from drinking. I don’t really even want to drink sometimes but do it anyway. Blacked out last night, and still feel sick now. I’ve never shared with anyone that I have this problem, until I found this message board. I have so much anxiety that I won’t be able to get this under control. I feel isolated and sad.

Hello to all,
If you need someone to save from addiction we can try.
Just contact me

Any meditation stories on recovery anyone willing to share? Did you have break through moments during meditation?

Any recommendations for group therapists in NYC??

I’m sober curious. I’m also about to help a new non-alcoholic spirit company with their launch.
I have a question for people in recovery. If a brand were to contend that sobriety is a spectrum, or allow for that to a least be part of the conversation, how does that make you feel? Are other brands doing a good job of being inclusive of people who are truly sober?
(I get that NA drinks / spirits can be triggering for people in recovery)
Thank you.

Some good advice from my sponsor as I go into this stressful week:

- Invite your Higher Power into the meetings with you
- Be your authentic self
- Be there to help others

I told myself I wasn’t going to do it. Re-assured myself I wasn’t going to do it. Told myself you’d know what would happen and still ended up gambling away a bunch of money I know I couldn’t blow. I don’t understand.

My SO is an alcohol abuser but has said he knows it’s a problem and would like to cut back or quit. Any suggestions or advice in how to help and cope with this. He becomes a different person when he drinks. I want to support him but don’t know how or where to start.

Hi. So grateful for this bowl! I’m 16 months sober. Fairly new to ACN just curious what types of challenges you’ve faced and how you’ve overcome them?

I am sex addict. I have to continue to remind myself that I am always in recovery. Had a major acting out a month ago, lost my fiancé and just taking one day at a time. That’s all I can do. Just remind myself so I don’t stop working

Looking for motivation to get me to my first Alcohol rehab appointment.

Hey all, just claiming my seat on a Saturday night. Was just struggling and another comment helped me get back to a healthy space. If anyone is struggling tonight, know there’s one fellow here thinking of you

Have been sober for many years but currently relapsed and am in a downward spiral. I’m close to losing my family but I can’t seem to get my head together. Feel like I need a few months out, maybe take some time off work… has anyone done similar and did it help?

Went for a pre-employment drug test yesterday. They never asked me if I was on any medications. I had to ask them and was told "oh yeah, just put any you may think make a difference in this text box." I put Xanax, Flexeril, and gabapentin. All of which are prescribed and used as directed. Now I'm terrified that I should have put ALL my meds, to including my psych meds. I've been sober over 12 years and never touched drugs (just booze) but I'm having a full blown panic attack.

I buy things I don’t need and don’t know how to fix it. I always blamed it on “drunk buying” but I’ve been sober for 355 days and it persists. I know I buy things in an effort to fill a void and try to feel something so I buy “things” but it doesn’t help and I know it. Any thoughts or suggestions?

Just taking the opportunity to get current. Sober 3 years and 10 months. This past couple weeks have been stressful and my mind slipped into fantasizing about my drug of choice. Last week I flipped out at some of my wife's family. I did an amends and I think time will heal this one. It's all up to HP. Although I have neglected my morning practice this week, I'm practicing self compassion with positive self talk.