Any expats here face pushback from your family for moving to a different country? They always try to shame me for moving so far away around the holidays...

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Yup. Every damn year… it’s f-ing tough! The guilt is laid on particularly hard at this time of year.

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Yep, always. 5 years now and doesn’t seem to get any better…

Damn this is really sad, my grandfather still cops this from his family in Wales and he's been in Aus for nearly 50 years. Just out of interest where are you guys originally from??

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