I’m with a guy I’m 100% confident is deeply in love with me, would never lie/cheat/betray, respects me/listens to me, and tries to help me live my best life.
(A Kokoum, if you will.)
I love him very much, but I’m not “head over heels”.
Afraid that if I break it off because our relationship is cozy instead of the deep love I think it’s supposed to be for life partnership/marriage, I’ll be making the biggest mistake of my life

Confession: The only in-law that I had a great relationship with passed away unexpectedly. The two remaining in-laws were on thin ice with me prior due to years of drama, nagging, and disgusting display of wealth. I believe their demand of money and general assholish behavior drove in law to his death. I love my S.O. but I can’t deal with the drama anymore.

I want to have a family and a future that is drama-free and full of love and don’t want to surround myself with negativity.

When Peter says I just want to be in a relationship where we give more than what we get. Story of my life. Why is that so hard?

Why is it that a lot of couples I know living in big cities are in open relationship?

How do I figure out spending with my SO? Initially I was paying for 90% of stuff (no actual bills, just going out). I talked to her and said we need to be more even. She was never proactive. She kind of got offended but we ended on a good note to split things. It went well for a couple weeks but now it's back to normal. She never takes out her card and only venmos me if I send her the request. She lets Venmos sit for weeks before paying them. I still let a lot of things slide.

Anyone be in a relationship where the other has an alcohol problem? Every night out drinking leads to emotional breakdowns and fights. Been going on for 6 months now. Should I break up?

I hate it when people try to bond with me over trauma when their trauma is that they fight a lot with their spouse or they didn’t get the promotion they wanted. How is that staring death in the face??

My dad who lives in Asia just announced that he had a medical issue. I’m starting to enter the age where I’m going to take care of him financially. It’s a $2,000 hospital bill which in the US is nothing compared to what it represents there (which he can’t afford). He’s going to be fine! Just wanted to share with this group as many of you can understand what it feels like to support your parents when they’re old, not the other way around. I feel so blessed I can help him. 🙏🏽

Moving to San Diego in the spring from the central coast. Any recs on places to live (late 30’s with a kid)? Want to be close to restaurants and things to do, but a little too old and tired for gas lamp!

Does anyone here work for Axiom or know someone who does and, if so, how difficult is it to stay fully engaged?

I am an unmarried working man in his 30s with a southern mother. In other words I'm flying home for Christmas and my mother just called to tell me that she just happened to accidentally run into the sweetest girl from her church that she just knows I'll get along with and accidentally invited her to our house for dinner the night that I get home. Deadass the woman will not rest until I am tied down. Pray for me!

Biglaw single parents? I’m a recently single parent. My ex is (almost) completely out of the picture now. Any other biglaw single parents with tips or tricks to making this work on my own?

When, or if you set time aside to take care of yourself or do something for yourself, what do you do? I'm realizing I don't really have any "healthy" ways of relaxing outside of work, so drop whatever you got. It's starting to affect my personal life and I'm worried I won't be able to have healthy relationships unless I can take care of myself first.

Hello - thinking of starting a small side coaching practice. Could use a bit of help because I've never thought about opening a side hustle but times are tough with two kids in college.

1. What is the best approach to collecting your fee? Each session? Pay the package cost upfront,? Other, and if so, what is it?
2. How do you collect it? Venmo? Credit card?
3. Do you have to register your business?

Thank you in advance for any guidance.

Any tips for traveling with a baby? Will be flying with a 4 month old in a few months. Any advice would be appreciated!

I have been in the US from Canada on contract for the past 6 months. My fiancé and I were supposed to get married and move here permanently in the fall. She has now called off the wedding, and has told me she doesn’t want me to move to the states. I got a great offer. Great job. Don’t want to lose the love of my life but I feel played. I worked so hard for this. She’s ripping out my heart, and taking my livelihood away. Am I wrong to not abide by her choice? Ask for the ring back?

How do you know if you have good hygiene? my ex told me I don’t

This is my routine:
- I have curly hair, can only wash it once a week/put dry shampoo if needed
- I brush my teeth 2 times a day
- Wear deodorant / perfume every day (my way, and good girl) and shave off any hair (I did laser but still), as much as possible. Some days, I cannot keep up with shaving (especially if it won’t show)
- I wear pantyliners and change it once a day/ change panties once a day
- I shower my body every day

35F divorced with a kid. I think I will never get remarried or in a serious relationship again. Lots of men don't like dating women with children. At my age either the guys are past their prime, divorced/ing and have to provide half their income to their first wife. Many with kids live on the same street as their ex wives so they can be close to their child. I'm not comfortable dating guys like that. On the flip side there are the ones that were never married, which by this age cont

In investment management at Deloitte. Wrapping up my second year here and looking to jump into a FP&A role/ valuation analyst. Is this a reasonable jump and what would salary expectations be?

For a customer success manager with 3 YOE, what’s the expected compensation? Experience working with 100+ accounts to also be in a dedicated role with top 5 ARR client.

Hey guys! I'm someone with a BA in finance.

I am really conflicted rn. I would like to hear experience from people who have done masters, or all the way to PhD.

Did you regret doing lengthy studying and should have focus on practical work etc? Let me know your thoughts!

With the new merger, can I use my spg suite night awards at Marriott properties?

Hi Guys, i got my offer letter today and my joinining was given as 13th July which is lessa than 1 month. I called up my recruiter, she mentioned that you can change ur DOJ anytime. Just wanted to know the process. If anyone can help.

Can one of you awesome people please scan my resume for a ZS Associates referral?

What are good plant protein brands in India?

New to EY. Are there any special benefits Senior Managers get that staff do not?

Anyone doing any investing in Charleston, SC

Anyone know the salary range for associate level positions including senior associate level.

STL bbs where you at?

Has anyone gone through bcgs experienced hire recruiting?

After technical interview, HR said that she 'your feedback is awaiting an approve from manager'. What does that mean??

Agency copywriters (in Toronto): what’s your pivot/exit plan after agency life? Client side seems to be crap work & bureaucratic, are there other creative options I haven’t thought of yet?

This is a question about friendships. Two friends got into a really bad fight this past weekend. They have each asked me to hang out this weekend. What do I do? I don’t want to have to choose sides. One is a friend I’ve known a little longer and has been a good friend and so she would feel betrayed and angry if she knew I were still friends with her now-enemy. The other I’ve known less longer, but we seem more compatible. Advice??

Any current BAL attorneys that can share their experience working for the firm? I have a second interview coming up. After the first interview I’m pretty excited about the opportunity and would like to hear from any current employees on their experience with the firm!

Wow! What a day! What type of company starts layoffs right before the holidays? Lost my job this morning and I am stressed out. Is there any chance of finding a new job before the holidays? I'm doubting it.

A toxic co-worker tried to throw me under the bus to cover their mistake in a call with leadership 😢😢. I showed the proof of conversation the next moment without hesitation to everyone. Suddenly their tone changes and tries to divert the topic 😒😒. I am distraught 🙁🙁

I always buy the same clothes (color and pattern) over and over again. So in all my pictures I look like I’m wearing the same clothes since I was 21😂. But I just buy new ones every year 😈🧐.

I want to join a fitness class but I have been going to gym always instead. Any reasons to convince to join fitness class?

Yikes! Some days, I just can’t stand my job

“Frankly, my dear, I don’t give a mindset”

Do you share details about raises/bonuses/other financial gains with friends or do you keep it to yourself? I have a few friends who will tell me everything from how much money they make to how much their husband spent on them for their bdays to how much their parents make?? To me that feels like bragging/being arrogant. It’s also the way they say it, feels very much like seeking validation to me.

When I was hired, I don't recall being informed about my salary being tied to my location. My employment contract also only makes one mention of location, and says "home office" and my state. I was recently told by HR though that if I move, my comp. will be lower. Is this legal? Should I consult a labor lawyer?

In my mind, I don't recall being told this and it's not clear from my employment contract, so I feel like they're breaking our agreement, and it feels unfair.

Thoughts on what to do?

A squirrel just flashed me climbing my window 🥱

I’m staying in tonight, plz tell me funny stories.🧐

Anyone actually use the Networking feature here on fishbowl? Like yeah I see some of you with it on but do you actually use it besides thirsty dms?

What’s your most hated/dreadful chore?
I hate doing laundry 🧺 and folding/putting it away.

I think you're all OK even if all your beliefs are absolutely and terribly wrong.

I accept you even though your opinions are trash and reek of intellectual laziness and genuine idiocy.

Brought too much pears from Costco. Trying to pimp them out to my family.

All of us want the same thing! Money- Flex Timing- Great Culture- Respect - Value in what we are doing!
We, the employees make an organization. If all of us want the same thing, how come the culture of that organization still remains the same! Why can’t we be the pioneer? Thoughts…

I feel like my employer thinks I’m losing my shit.

I started traveling while working remote and fell in love with the mountains. I’m now applying to be a full time remote employee and fear they won’t approve it.

I feel like I have to defend that I’ve found more in life that makes me happy than just work.

How do I pitch that I need to live elsewhere for my happiness and not near an office?

Big birthday coming up in a few months and wanting to do things I have never done before (tattoos, surgery, etc.) What have you done as a result of a mid life crisis?

I think people who call or ring your doorbell are intrusive psychos.

I was humbled today when I was talking to a guy at work(I’m in industry) and we were looking through the past work history of executives/board members and I’m go “oh she used to work at Deloitte!” And he’s like “what’s a Deloitte”