How to stop feeling insecure that boyfriend will meet someone else when he goes out/goes to music festivals? He has never given me a reason to doubt him but I can’t shake this feeling of insecurity every time this happens

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Read the book “Attached” and work on your attachment style with a therapist.

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Suck the absolute life out of his dick when he comes home and fuck his brains out like he's never been fucked before. After that's over with, cook him the best god damn dinner he's ever had. And I guarantee you he won't leave you for anyone else. Ever.

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But be careful because if you do do that and then you want to breakup later, good luck trying to get them to let go.

I struggled quite a bit with this in the past after being cheated on. What I started to work on was recognizing my contributions to the relationship, recognizing my self worth and what I deserve. You can also say to be more confident but that term didn’t click with me. At some point I had an epiphany that I would be ok if he would ever choose someone else over me, it’s his loss, not mine.

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You need to stop bothering about things that are beyond your control. When he's not with you, you shouldn't wonder if he's talking to someone else cos you just can't know. Just know one thing, when he messes up, you can be happy without him in your life. Just find what makes you happy cos your happiness doesn't depend on him.

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But what if you wanna avoid marrying this person if infact they are cheating?

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