Any of you were obsessed with being in the spotlight, recognized, etc. and now give absolutely no fs? I almost cringe at seeing how I was so into “proving myself to others.” Is it having children that make you this way? Or is it because I’m almost 40? Any experiences and feelings welcome 🤗

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100% feel like having children shifted my perspective in so many ways, this example being one of them. I’m mid-30s and am working to strike the right balance of caring just enough about my job/company because the company will always views me as replaceable, but I’m irreplaceable to my family.

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Yes, agree about having children changing my perspective. “Proving myself to others” definitely resonated with me, after having my daughter I remember thinking I’m so over all this BS can’t believe I ever cared that much.

I still try to do a good job and what not but it’s much easier to shut my work brain off now.

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Having kids and my age. I feel I did all the hard work and proving myself in my 20s. When the kids came in my 30s I could not give the same energy. I mean I tried but working late gave me mom guilt. Felt I was missing out on the kids stuff. As I got closer to 40, I could careless about getting an award if it meant time away from my kids.

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I’m somewhere in the middle. I thrive (idk why) on being praised and doing my job really well. BUT at the same time I don’t give a flying fuck to do extra work for recognition (aka like random ass pitches) not sure if it’s because I have a kid or older.. but I alrdy give my all at work (for the job I was hired to do) and need my family time.

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Depends on the recognition. Internal or external. Internal recognition gives people the sense of belonging and can strengthen their voice as they cross collaborate. External recognition could be career building and open different avenues.

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