Anyone has an alternative to an Au Pair. Wife and I were looking forward to host an au pair but can’t go through the official program since we are not permanent residents yet. Anyone has an alternative besides traditional daycare? Maybe a friend of a friend? I am in NJ. Any ideas welcomed and needed!

Asking for a friend - anyone staying in a marriage just for the kid(s)?

It's not like the marriage is terrible or unhealthy, but they would take an out if not for having had the kids.

Anyone else experience this? I'm wondering how common this is.

Any recommendations for books for desi parents ? Politics , economics, world order , self help

How many couples here where the husband/male SO is younger than the wife/female SO? And what if the age difference.
To start..I'm 34 and wife is 36.

My best friend has Celeste!

This bowl has been quiet and I see partners commenting on odd posts around fishbowl so I figure you need more fodder: partners, did any of you have parents that travelled as much as you do?

GF is 32 and I’m 28. She wants kids within 2 years, understandably. I never envisioned having kids that early (more like late 30s), but I like her a lot. Anyone else gone through something similar?

Anyone work in NY state most specifically Jefferson County? I have a Q re: divorce case, but not sure if I can even private message on this thing.

Anyone else struggling with hormones / mood swings? I am almost 16 weeks and been having a real tough time lately, feeling really down and stressed about things. Sadly, causing tension between me and my partner as well as he cannot relate and seems preoccupied with business as usual. Trying to get out the funk and just telling myself it’s all the hormones.

I’m (early30s) about 8 months into a relationship with a 40m. Things are wonderful in every aspect, but he is absolutely atrocious with his finances. I felt it becoming an issue about two months ago. He forgets about auto payments and just generally doesn’t care. I sat down with him and looked at everything and even after talking it out he still continues to stress and it’s now causing me stress. I had a final discussion with him today about it and he went on abt how love isn’t enough for me…

Do you think using “him/her” for “he/she” (ex: “her is playing” “him not here yet”) is something that kids usually grow out of? Or does it need direct intervention? I have 2 students who exhibit this error, who otherwise should be dismissed. Normally I’d just keep them on and work on it alongside other goals, but they don’t have any other goals, and with COVID, and my upcoming maternity leave in March, a more compact caseload would be advantageous.

Ugh, is that time of year again! Does anyone have any advice on how to handle "friends" and family members who spout conspiracy theories to avoid getting the flu shot

How’s everyone holding up? For those of us who do 12 step meetings, I for one miss the hugs! We have to work harder now to stay connected as we are isolators by nature. Find time for you 🙏

Question: Girl friends parents finally came over for a ristha. Everything went great or so I thought but now she wants to time to think about moving forward. The pain point she brought up is that we are in different states and she is feeling pressed. Although in that time she has started communicating less and I literally had to beg her to get on face time. My gut says she wants to end it but unsure. Any advice ? It's been 2 weeks since this event

Have you walked away from somebody you loved? And why?

What do you do when your lifelong friends get married, have kids and disappear to the burbs or wherever and you’re single, lonely and gay?

Should I try talking to another teacher that has been making my life difficult? At today’s optional after school meeting she said I was keeping her past her contractual time... it was optional!!!

Looking for perspective: Did money play a role in evaluating whether someone could be your life partner?

My bf has asked me to help him quit the ecigs and told me he’ll probably hide them from me but he wants me to take them. So I have for the past week. He really only keeps them in his pocket, 1 drawer

Breakup etiquette- we broke up and I was supposed to go to his relatives’s wedding in a couple of weeks. I know the couple, not super well, but have hung out and texted individually as well. Should I let them know I won’t be attending and wish them well or don’t reach out to them?

My husband does not show affection openly and is quite lazy in bed, and I thought I could deal with it because I love him, but it’s really really beginning to annoy me. For example, he refuses to do any foreplay and basically asks that I get on top of him most of the time when we have have sex- if I push him to do anything else he basically just refuses to have sex at all as some sort of ‘protest’. I am finding myself fantasising about an affair more and more

Poll: What dress code do you follow at your home office?

How does the pre-tax parking benefit work at kpmg? There isn't much detail on ssc or benefits connection but it seems like it is on the honor system vs a separate account like FSA?

Anyone in Toronto looking for a CD? I need to make a change. Agency or in-house (if the in-house is cool.)

Those who recently joined ARA how was the transition? Any advise on what I can look/research on now to help on my first couple of assignments?

So, is it worth to leave Deloitte for a startup? Given that current CTC is 6 and startup is offering 16 in hand?

Does anyone know of a coworking spaces that focus on creatives and/or marketing companies? All the ones I know of like technexus, wework and 1871 in Chicago are tech company focused.

I have a meeting with a CEO of a start-up IB. She is meeting to help guide me in the industry (not just a job interview). What questions would you ask?

If I have double British and American citizenship, should I join the US or British army?

Anyone do the Office 365 to Google transition? Pain points? Pros and cons?

Hello! I’m looking for a mid-sr. product designer role in tech and hoping to connect with any recruiters or other product designers with openings on their team. I have 6 years of experience in the B2B SaaS space and over 2 focused specifically in product design (previously marketing web design). Anything helps, thank you :)

Anyone ever gotten COVID before an exam? I just got it and I test Saturday. I called about it and they said to cancel it and I might get either a refund or extension. If anyone has had this happen did you get an extension? If so, how long was it?

What's the most you've ever paid for a single drink?

A colleague just "shamed me" about the size of my engagement ring. My fiance is a wonderful, hardworking guy who bought me a beautiful ring. I'd take a great guy over a large ring any day.

Hi Fishes,

I have given interview for salesforce dev position in IQVIA and all the three rounds were completed on 10Feb after that I didn't got any communication from recruiter , how many days it usually takes and I am in notice period and it is going to next month..

Will I get an offer from them before the end of next month?

Hey Fishes, What is AME Tech in Accenture- DCN Internal ? I have been assigned this project. It would be great if someone can give a brief about it please. Accenture India Accenture

Debating when to have the first baby… would you say having a baby is totally worth it ? Worth all the struggles and sacrifices? Or should I wait an extra year just to save more money and enjoy life now without the extra sacrifices… (female 27 & want to have 2 kids)

Sheesh I was really excited that this bowl existed….the. Saw that it’s not active at all 😂 Guess everyone’s on the what to expect app!

Took my 2 year old daughter to the dentist and she found 4 cavities. We’ve been teaching her to brush her teeth before bed & after meals(unsuccessfully) so far.
She’s needs sdf treatment according to the dentist, any suggestions on how to move after the treatment as it leaves black coverage on the teeth. (She’s too young for crowns and what not)

Any recommendations for a umbrella stroller? Our Uppababy Vista is way too big to lug around everywhere.

What Christmas gift can I get a 3 year old boy? He loves cars and all things transportation related. And has a ton of toys. I want to get him something very thoughtful that he can engage, learn or just have fun.

Any recos on great childcare in New York (ideally west village / Chelsea / Greenwich / soho)?

About to be a new dad. Starting to look into childcare but feeling a little overwhelmed. Would love to hear thoughts/opinions on what to look for besides convenience.

Consulting Baby Shower question - what was the best baby shower gift you ever received?

Hi everyone, first timer here. Having some issues w. our 4 yo being pushed around and bullied at preschool. He’s really sad and upset. He’s also super shy & introvert. Any advise? Pep talk? Discuss with teacher?

EY 🐠 - potentially starting with the firm soon, and my partner is due to have our first in April. Given the 1 year service requirement for leave, would I have the option to take PTO during birth and use parental leave after my 1 year of service? Appreciate any guidance here

Our 5 month old started daycare about 5 weeks ago. We’ve already had to keep her home for 2.5 of those 5 weeks due to catching various illnesses (croup, rsv, brinchiolitis, etc). Both my wife and I have been sick most of that time as well (gotten it from the baby). Wife is thinking we get a full time nanny for the next 4 months to help the baby build antibodies. Cost aside, is this feasible / worthwhile to go thru the effort / finding the right fit, only for 4 months?

We recently sleep trained our 7 month son. He went from waking up multiple times during night and taking only 30 minute naps 3 times during day (most cases nursed to sleep or rocked to sleep or took a drive) to sleeping 12 hours at night without interruption and two 2 hour naps and one 45 minutes nap during day. We both love that he is getting enough sleep and well rested on one hand. On the other hand, we are now wondering if he is sleeping way too much.. contd…

Dads with older children: while raising your children, did your children prefer their moms over you? I know some will prefer dads over moms, but I assume majority of children out there will prefer their moms over dads… I have one child and it kinda hurts to see my child always preferring the mom over me. I know I shouldn’t feel this way, but I just do. How did you cope with such issue raising your children?

Welcome all to parents in Consulting bowl, please post a little bit about yourself, number of kids and their ages!

Any parents under H1B? I was@looking to get an au pair for kids and got to know that I cannot host one because I don’t have a green card yet. Any options? I heard people get au pairs that have another year remaining in their visa but couldn’t find one yet

I am getting ready to send my 2 year old toddler to a toddler program next week for the first time. Have to fill out a form “bathroom waiver”, which is basically allowing teachers at the school to clean my child after a potty, including genital area. I feel uneasy about this but I know I have to let them… I assume all parents have signed such waiver?

First time Dad and my 15 month old keeps running up the stairs at my in-laws place and they keep encouraging it. Stairs are almost 10 inches high with nothing underneath and I’m worried that he might slip and fall in between the stairs. My FIL is a bit of a know-it-all and keeps insisting it’s safe and I don’t agree. What do I do? Don’t want to fight the entire house full of people about this and kid enjoys it too much and cries a lot if I/we prevent him from climbing