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I have another offer that is of Airbus but there a huge difference in the fixed part (4L).
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Easy for me say, but waiting and praying is the appropriate approach, and there are numerous examples of this in the Bible. Every day we are closer to Christ's return and entry into his kingdom. I hope that knowing this will bring you some peace.
I had gotten so discouraged with the church in my twenties that I lowered my standards to be anyone who professed to be a Christian. Four years and two kids into our marriage he became an atheist. We have been married 10 years now and I love him but it is so unbearably heartbreaking and difficult to be married to a non believer and having to raise my children in the faith alone. It’s also so hard to not share hope. Facing difficult times together is so awkward and celebrating things is always tempered by the fact that he doesn’t join me in praising God. Hold on to your faith and wait to marry someone who truly shares your faith.
Keep praying persistently for him, he WILL come around especially seeing you continue in your faith. "For the unbelieving husband is made holy because of his wife, and the unbelieving wife is made holy because of her husband. Otherwise your children would be unclean, but as it is, they are holy." -1 Corinthians 7:14 ❤🙏🏽
Personal experience: I'd rather be single than in an unhealthy relationship. I understand the longing, but the grass isn't necessarily greener on the other side of that fence.
I agree with A1’s statement.
Maybe someone should start an online dating pool here 😂😪
Staying single would be better than being married for the sake of it - just personal experience
BCG your comment ^ is so so encouraging. Thank you for sharing I couldnt agree more. Our lives are just a blimp in the span of eternity. Only thing I'd reiterate is marriage is sacred its a sanctification vehicle God uses to demonstrate His glory and Christ's relationship with the church body. There truly is no point to choose to marry an unbeliever since there is only one way in and no way out (technically divorce is only a construct for our own hardened hearts).
I hope and pray that God gives all searching a burning desire for Him alone then grants you the desires of your heart. 'God is an on-time God, never late we just can't wait.'
Cant be unequally yolked. Not saying it can’t work, but dating an atheist as a Christian would be difficult to say the least and I am going to raise my kids Christian so I don’t want my spouse to undermine my beliefs.
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I’m in the same boat as you, sister! Single in her 30s in NYC! In it together
Hello how are you guys doing?
I was single well into my 30s because I hadn't met someone who could wholly embrace both my faith and my worldview. After some study (Sam Allberry is a good start), I embraced what God had chosen to do in my life. It was never easy, but absolutely worth it. I understood the Gospel and the church in ways I hadn't before -- and was able to share it with my married brothers and sisters.
If you meant 'expand your dating pool' as in look outside of your state I'd say go for it but location may be tough if you're both tied to your cities. But your question is about marrying outside of your faith which is a huge NO NO. Think about it.. you're already willing to compromise on the only critical requirement in a spouse that you haven't even met yet, what's next? Jesus is the ONLY bridegroom that can satisfy and fulfill us like no one else can. I'm sure you already know this and have a close relationship with Him so are you willing to compromise for Jesus instead and pray earnestly for Him to fill the desires of your heart? He knows and loves you more intimately than you even can yourself. Trust God and He will provide, He always does ❤🙏🏽
For context, both my parents were 'Christians' but I wouldn't classify them as born again/spirit filled entirely and mom gave up at the first few signs of lack of effort in dad (divorced after 4 years). When you have no faith/no rock to stand on its just so much easier for the enemy to tear the house down. Always wished they would've tried harder to pray and seek God's counsel. I'm now engaged to a man that brought me closer to Christ and we pray, evangelize, and got baptised together. I see the uptick in spiritual warfare just in the dating/engagement stage. I can't imagine enduring this in marriage without having a strong foundation in the Word. Strongly encourage you to read 'Meaning of Marriage' by the Kellers and definitely every marriage scripture in the Bible!
As Christians, Satan can't affect our salvation, and so he instead attempts to degrade our lives and inhibit our ability to glorify God. This all falls within the camp of spiritual warfare.
I waited on the Lord until 38 and am eternally grateful I did. My husband was a new believer and my Dad baptized him the morning of our wedding day. Sharing that foundation has made all the difference.
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For those who would rather wait: would you change your mind if you were in your 30s like me and already tried really hard to find someone but just couldn’t
Speaking from my experience... It was NOT easy at all, but somehow, God gave me the ability to wait. I recently married in my mid-30s, and had some terrible experiences dating non-Christians prior to marrying my husband, who is Christian. I also really struggled because it looked like there was no one in my life who was a match. It makes a HUGE difference if your partner shares the same faith as you. Just a reminder that God is real, and he is working in your life, and things can change faster than you expect. :)
I would listen to the advice of most people here and wait. It's really hard, and again, speaking from personal experience, but if you lower your standards and settle for someone who does not share the same faith as you, you will begin to see how many things you do not align on, which will make decisions in the future very difficult. One thing that helped me was a personal realization that that when I made the decision to date someone who was not Christian, I was not putting my trust in God to provide the right person for me, and I was essentially trying to do things on my own timeline, instead of trusting in Him.
Praying for you, regardless of what decide you do, to gain and grow more in Christ through this whole process.
Following! I know the struggle OP, praying for you❤️
My boyfriend wasn’t Christian before I met him. We met on a normal dating site and I was pretty upfront about my faith. He respects my boundaries as far as sex and such and we have been seeing each other almost 5 months. He has been really receptive to going to church with me and even recently got baptized (he was raised Catholic). I’m not sure I recommend it, it’s scary but that’s been my journey so far. I’m hoping it just grows from here but TBD on how it plays out!
I just have to comment here for the sake of other readers. I don’t think this situation falls in the category as a non-believing BF. (As a former Catholic) I can tell you that Catholics acknowledge that Jesus died for our sins and rose from the dead. Even though there are differences theologically than Protestants Christians. Like praying to Mary and saints, etc. I believe in Your instance, this is more of question of was he practicing his faith as opposed to was he Christian. There’s a considerable difference. Regardless of theological beliefs, you bf had foundation with Christ that made him open to getting closer with the lord. (Speaking from a similar experience)
This may have been a channel already, but if you’re serious about fostering a Christian family then try your own church, other churches nearby where you live or attend conferences and meet others this way
Very Catholic mother married my Jewish but atheist father. He actually converted 20 years later, and now they both go to daily mass together.
He’s also been the best dad ever. :)
I encourage you to wait on the Lord. It is better to not marry at all than marry wrong. As a child of someone who married wrong, I’ll tell you the consequences not only harm you but your loved ones. I would recommend reading Single, Dating, Engaged, Married by Ben Stuart for some guidance.
I know there are more Christian women than Christian men but are you sure there aren’t Christian man in New York? Are you particularly picky or having strict standards on other things such as height, look, income, profession, ethnicity, etc.?
No in general. In fact, some men prefer (or even fetish) foreign women because they are “exotic”, “submissive” and “less brainwashed by American feminism”. In contrary, I don’t see lots of women prefer foreign men (with the exception of some k pop fans, etc.)
Honestly, pray and fast until your prayer is answered a lot of us underestimate the power of fasting but you will be shocked at how fast some things happen with a combination of prayer and fasting.
Yes it did. Not in the sense of marriage but for dating Yes.
I gave up and dated a non Christian man. Married him at 29. Worst decision I ever made. Unequally yolked = misery for me.