Are you open to your manager about your mental health/stress? Is it a good idea to discuss it?

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I was open about it with my manager, he then used it against me to keep me from a well deserved promotion and pass his favorite guy, under the pretext that I’m not ready to take on more responsibility for now.
My advice is to be clever about it, if you feel it could harm your professional development don’t do it, take PTO, go to therapy, take a leave, but don’t let them know your personal life, it’s yours

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I also have the same fear. Thanks for sharing your experience.

I think confronting your problems straight on is always the best way to attack it. Your manager may have some insight on how you can make your load lighter.. you'll never know until you try.

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First, start looking at what counseling options are available to you. Seeing a professional can help you get to the root of the problem and help prepare you for whatever conversations you need to have with your employer.

After that, it really depends on the manager and the company. Is your manager the type of person that views this as a part of being human or a sign of weakness that lowers your perceived value? Same with your company and their culture.

When I was at a small consulting start up, I let my manager know that I was burned out and struggling mentally after coming back from a head injury. I asked for a lower workload for a few weeks while I recovered (basically going to 40-50 hour weeks from 50-60). They cut my pay 10% and did the bare minimum to lower my stress.

When I was at a larger firm and had to deal with some family issues, they were able to move me off a few lower priority projects and helped ramp me back to normal once I was more available.

If you trust your manager and you trust your company, going to them can be very beneficial. If you don’t feel like you can go to them for something like this, then start looking for a new job because no one company is worth your long term mental health.

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Once they know you/ if they seem to be your advocate and partner in crime, yes, assuming it's not just like 'my job (in a general, day to day) is hard wah'

I also tend to be frank about my ADHD due to wanting ADA accommodations for it (example: if I'm on site, working in an open office at a big group table does not work for me unless I absolutely must, etc.)

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It depends on my manager. I had 8 in a 6 year period at SF. Of the 8 I was comfortable discussing it with 4 of them. The rest - absolutely not.

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It really depends on the kind of relationship you have with your manager and whether you can trust them to be objective. I've been burned in the past by sharing too much personal information, so I tend to be more guarded and will only be open if I truly feel I can trust someone.

Thanks all. Great insights.

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