My husband and I are thinking about taking a 6 month career break to travel. Career suicide or worth the risk? For context, I’m a 4th year big law associate (30 years old and no kids).

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I did this! Fair warning: it changed what I wanted from my career. I left a midsize firm in a secondary city. Now I am the third attorney at a small rural practice.

I didn't even want to try to get back into a large firm.

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IMO if you’re going to do it, that’s about the right seniority level to go for it. Life is short, do your thing.

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Someone recently joined our group (biglaw practice) after taking almost 2 years off to just chill.

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Nope. I asked because I assumed it was for raising a child or something, but no. Just… chilling.

Absolutely do it. My husband and I did this for 3 months and it was amazing. We got lucky with timing and I was able to accept a new job and push out the start date by 60 days. But, it required taking virtual interviews at some odd hours. Finally got to do the Tanzanian safari I always wanted but never had time for.

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Sounds awesome and like it would be worth the risk.

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I don’t think it’s a career killer. 6 months isn’t near long enough for that. I’d see if your current firm would do an unpaid sabbatical or something like that. If not You’ll just want to plan for it being slightly longer than 6 months as you’ll have to spend a few months interviewing after you return.

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Wow are we the same person? Also a 4th year, married, late 20s and no kids - we are thinking of doing the same but debating when to go (ie do we leave after 4th year bonus or wait another year for 5th since we own a house and would still need to pay our mortgage during this).

I am obviously biased bc we want to do the same thing but I’ve talked to a lot of people about it (have mentors that are equity partners at v10 firms that are not my current employers) and they all say 10000% to go for it. We may have to take a job we aren’t as passionate about when we come back but can leverage that job as a stepping stone to get where we want to go after.

And I personally think if I am interviewing after doing this and someone scoffs at me for taking the time, then chances are they aren’t someone I want to work for / work with, so their disdain has saved me energy from trying to get a job at their company. As BL associates, we’re highly skilled and employable people - there will always be *a* job. (Full disclosure, this is what I tell myself when I also start to worry it’s career suicide).

It’s not an easy decision but I hope you do it!!! I don’t see a scenario where this is something you’ll regret.

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You will never regret doing this but you may regret not doing it.

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I did this. Traveled for 8 months. Best time ever. Now I'm back in BigLaw and have more focus cos I got the partying and youthful adventure out of my system. You only live once. And let's admit it: BigLaw is inherently pointless. We do it for the money.

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A(Litigation1)- did you go back to your same firm? Did you make a deal with them when you left to have an open door back in?

I'd only do this if you can finagle it with your current firm. If you're in good standing, some firms can be very understanding of a need for a valued associate to take a sabbatical.

I've seen this happen where a valued senior / midlevel took a 6-month (or even longer) sabbatical to do something not related to family obligation and return to their firm without barely any career interruption or assumption that they're not dedicated.

I would NOT try to quit your job, take 6 months off, then try to lateral. Firms just have no patience for this. If you quit to start your own company or do something otherwise professionally compelling, you could find your way back to BigLaw. And firms are generally understanding if you quit to assume family caregiver responsibilities and were out for less than a year.

What makes you say firms don’t have patience for it? I’ve known a few 4th and 5th years (that all came from v10 firms) easily lateral after doing this (to travel, none for familial obligations) to v25/50 firms and their experience at their v10 basically got them the job. Not saying you’re wrong at all, but curious where that statement is coming from.

I understand why an AM200 firm associate may have a harder time lateraling, but I also think it’s dependent on where you were when you left as to your lateral options.

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