At a crossroads of whether to leave a comfortable job where I’m nearly fully remote/hybrid for a more challenging role that pays a significant amount more but is mostly in the office. Have a 2 year old that I love taking to daycare and gonna miss that so much. But also feeling the pressure to maximize my earning potential as I approach my mid 40s. What would you do???

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You won’t get the early years back… I would 100% stay and enjoy the opportunity to spend this time with your kid. You can always jump when they’re older. Family > job.

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Only you can answer this, unfortunately.
Good news is it sounds like a relatively straight forward question; Is the extra money worth the loss of time / autonomy with your family? If it will make that kind of a financial difference, then it may be worth it! If it isn’t, well, it isn’t!

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With the state of the industry right now, one of the thoughts I can’t seem to shake around potentially making a move is that it could put me in a last-in-first-out position in the event of a layoff and we’re at a time when layoffs seem to be pretty rampant and hiring activity quite low. I realize this is a pretty risk averse mindset but having 2 kids myself, that’s just where I’m at in this current market. It may be a time to hold rather than be bullish?

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I opted to consult/freelance (and at a lower level than I was at before leaving another few jobs) vs jumping back into a FT position years ago when my son was about 5 yrs old so I could spend more time with him. The first few years, I perma-lanced in office and the commute was an hour each way. It wasn’t as demanding as a FT job since I could stay focused on my account and say no to other things if I wanted. The last 4-5 years have been a bit of a roller coaster ride financially, but the memories I created from mainly working from home with my son are worth the trade off IMHO in making more money. I got to walk him to school vs frantically driving to make cut off for pickups. Take trips on weekdays without worrying about having to cancel them. Etc.

While a job can buy you things and provide greater long-term security, including retirement savings and trips to places, it cuts into the joy of the little moments. And you can’t get back those years.

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Without knowing the specifics of your situation, I'd say stay where you are.

Approaching your mid-40s in this industry is usually a death sentence where the company is ready to stick you on an ice floe.

Layoffs are the norm these days and I'd have to see you jump ship only to find yourself in the first wave of "maximizing efficiencies" in 6 months.

For me personally, that salary bump would have to be FU money for me to even considering leaving a situation you've described.

Good luck.

*hate to see you jump ship only to find yourself in the first wave of "maximizing efficiencies" in 6 months.

One of my favorite quotes as a working mom is “You can have it all, just not at the same time.” Do what feels right for right now, knowing you can always change later—whether that’s to earn more or dial back and stay home more. Also, just a heads up, when your kids get to later elementary and jr high the carpools and after school activities will compete for your time just as much.

My concern would be if you take the new job and decide you don’t like and want to return to remote, that it may be challenging to find a remote job. Someone told me remote jobs get double the applicants because so many companies are returning to office.

Do you like your lifestyle?
Yes=stay.

Do you feel you need $$ for your child to be able to make that same choice at some point??
Yes=leave.

As a head of strategy, everthing else is potentially perjorative.

Do the interview, but ask the new job to match the old job’s hybrid/remote schedule. They might say yes!

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