Been single for 7 months from a long term relationship. I still don’t feel motivated to date, I just don’t think I’m ready. I also don’t know if I’ll be ready soon. At what point should I be “worried"

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You should never worry about being ready. When you are ready, you will know. I was in a similar situation and I went a year and a half without going on a date and then one day met my future wife. It happened out of the blue and when I met her a switch was flipped and I wanted to be in a relationship again. So I think meeting someone definitely changes your mindset. But its never too late in life to meet someone. People fall in love in their 40's and 50's. Even if having children is up on your list, that is still a possibility well into your 40's and beyond. Don't fret and just enjoy your single life right now because you don't know when it could change.

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Congrats man! That’s awesome!

Much respect EY 1, couldn’t have said it better myself.

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Thanks EY2, I appreciate it!

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Been single for seven years. Had back to back serious long term relationships blow up. I can’t bring myself to even try again.

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Just broke up 2 months ago and i know im not ready. Take time to find yourself and know your passion if you havent already. When you are ready to be in a relationship youll know. Just try to keep an eye out for the good person that maybe out there for you. Dont want to miss that person thats may be for you.

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How do you meet people? I'm 27 male and never had no relationship, no kiss or no intimacy. I would like to with someone eventually but don't know how 🤨 it surprised me when people can say they had multiple relationships. Like how do you meet people that you think might be a match?

...ummm there are lots of hookup apps😉, clubs and parties.

Took me 2 years before I was ready to even think about dating again after the end of my last long term relationship. Honestly those 2 years were so important for me to regain my independence and learn how to be happy with myself. It’s been about a year since I’ve started dating again (if you’d call going on a date every few months dating lol) and I feel so much more confident with who I am, what I want in a partner, and I’m still happy with being by myself! Those 2 years of me time were rough at first, but after about 9 months I became fully happy with myself and accepted the end of my relationship. It felt like a huge weight off my back and I was SO happy with my life it was almost euphoric- keep your head up you’ll get there :)

use this time to travel!

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