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No unless you start as friends and feelings develop organically.
I’ve been married for 30 years. My husband was so skinny when I met him but so smart and driven. I married him even though I wasn’t physically attracted to him. Now he works out with a trainer, looks fantastic and is In better shape than I am. Personality trumps looks imo. I’m so blessed. He was always driven and that’s the most important thing
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I feel people like me have a chance only with people like you but it’s just impossible to find someone like that 😭 Everyone, whether they’re attractive themselves or not, have immense standards these days
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That's a no from me dawg 🙅🏽♀️
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Why do you need to force yourself? Unless you have a history of trauma and are only attracted to fuck bois… leave the man for the person that is a hell yes for him and keep searching for yours.
Everybody has a type
My BF is bald, but shaves his head. He’s hot as shit, but he does have a neck.
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Friends sure but partner no, at least for me the guy has to be physically attractive to me otherwise it’s just not gonna work
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I think it's often an individual chemistry thing more than looks or personality I've met great guys with good personalities that were objectively attractive, but I just wasn't sexually attracted to them, and I've met guys I that I would not necessarily call attractive but there was something so magnetic about them that I found myself tripping over them...it goes beyond personality and it can't always be pinpointed. As someone else mentioned, je ne sais qoui? Maybe pheromones? Idk. I think attractiveness is easier to latch onto and allows us to just trick ourselves into thinking we want to persue further, where as those who we don't think are as attractive are a harder sell...and in either case the chemistry is not really there or forced.
So give yourself a break. It may just be that the chemistry isn't there, he doesn't have the right pheromones or whatever. Some other dude that isn't your "type" may walk through the door tomorrow and knock you off your feet.
That said, I do also think love and attraction can grow over time, so could be worth a couple more dates.
Men never ask themselves this question and you shouldn't either...
SC3, it’s obvious you have a lot of trauma. See a therapist as this is not a healthy way to live and you won’t have a healthy relationship if this is truly how you feel. A lot of it might be social media pushing toxic misandrist views on men which are largely untrue
I think you can overlook some aspects of physical (I'm a face person, so as long as the guy isn't morbidly obese and has a good face, I'm good to go), but not all. and you're not going to be attracted to everyone. One of my friends tried to fix me up a few weeks ago and similar situation as you said where he had no neck, and I immediately knew there wouldn't be a second date lol
Attraction just happens, whether the person is conventionally good looking or not. Don't question it, and definitely don't force it. Since I accepted this fact, I've become more confident and secure in my dating life. And I also tend to swipe on instinct now.
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No, do you. If the tables were turned that man would not have spoken to you, if he wasn’t physically attracted to you. You could have the most amazing personality in the world, man do not care. If his other member is not feeling you, it’s a No. Be just as ruthless as a man and think only of yourself babe, because a man always will, especially when it comes to dating.
Your genes are telling you something of which you're not consciously aware. Go find your own missing piece.
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The guy in the picture ^
Just make sure you don't end up with a physically attractive person with a horrible personality because you'd regret dumping your no-neck bald friend.
You can’t force sexual attraction. It’s too important to overlook.
I thought the new mantra was all bodies are beautiful.
The minute he gets a cute girlfriend you’ll think differently.
There may be a time in your life where physical appearance matters less. There may not be. At the end of the day if your gut tells you this is not your person you should listen to it
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