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Any single women like houses?
31 F based in Chicago. Does anyone want to talk?
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Do yall think posting about www.big4transparency.com on linkedin is a good idea to increase the reach, and people will think “oh cool, good initiative”
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Will it be suicide in terms of all my contacts and relationships from my previous firm and people will just think i’m stirring up shit
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I’ve never been more inspired in my life.
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Any single women like houses?
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No unless you start as friends and feelings develop organically.
I’ve been married for 30 years. My husband was so skinny when I met him but so smart and driven. I married him even though I wasn’t physically attracted to him. Now he works out with a trainer, looks fantastic and is In better shape than I am. Personality trumps looks imo. I’m so blessed. He was always driven and that’s the most important thing
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I feel people like me have a chance only with people like you but it’s just impossible to find someone like that 😭 Everyone, whether they’re attractive themselves or not, have immense standards these days
The guy:
I thought the same, until they said the personality was great
No. For a romantic relationship, you cannot overlook someone’s physical appearance.
People on social media that say differently are liars.
I will agree that you can’t entirely overlook appearances, but will say that I wasn’t immediately attracted to my bf at first, but his personality was so charming and had that intangible je ne sais quoi which I absolutely could not overlook and the attraction grew from there.
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Stop posting pictures of my celebrity lookalikes. 🐺🦞
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Who wouldn't have sex with Mr. Devito? I would.
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You say he has A+ personality but it doesn’t sound like it makes up for the looks for you. If I was enamored with a guy I would forget a lot of things about his physical appearance so even though you say he has a great personality it doesn’t sound like there’s a deep connection and that’s okay. It is what it is.
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This! ☝🏾
If you’re not attracted to someone, you’re not attracted to them, and you can’t pretend otherwise. BUT I have found myself growing attracted to people as I get to know them, when I was not initially attracted based on looks alone. You can also start to “train” you r brain to be attracted to a wider range of people through exposure: follow social media accounts of confident people who are outside of the normal of what you find attractive, whether that’s a different weight or height, different hair styles or facial features, even different clothing styles from your typical type. You can slowly rewire your brain to broaden your preferences, if you want to.
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The exposure thing is real. I grew up in a place that wasn't super ethnically/racially diverse and for a long time I thought I was only attracted to people who looked like...me. But since moving to a city that is extremely diverse, and particularly a neighborhood that is basically polar opposite from where I grew up and I'm the minority, I find that there is a lot more diversity in who I find myself attracted to.
Chief
Nope. Sorry.
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Slight edit- if the person is super charming, that can help.
Sure. I'm sapiosexual and can be absolutely hot for somebody whose body I don't find attractive.
Maybe try being friends for now and see if a spark happens later.
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I don’t think it’s impossible. There were times where I thought someone was okay looking but then the more I got to know them their looks grew on me
Bald ? That’s offensive just like if a guy said a woman is fat .
They’re called descriptors, but that is exactly where we’re headed. At least on one side of it, men can not only be described but shamed for baldness, height, penis size without an issue
https://twitter.com/hutchleah/status/1609843258401886210?s=20&t=6ReDWiNpdbTKrOsrPwfpig
Depends what you’re looking for!
I’m very picky if for a relationship.
But I’ve hooked up with incredible humans based on personality alone—I can get very tuned in to someone if I click with someone, and sexual chemistry has often quickly followed. Many of them would be considered unattractive under conventional standards.
Also—your level of attractiveness has zero correlation with your sexual performance/talent.
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What matters is whether the person is attractive TO YOU. If they are not, it’s just going to be a struggle forever.
I wish people would stop naming specific attributes as what they aren't attracted to. There are bald men who are knockouts and basically out of your league, for instance. Specifically saying that he's bald or has a short neck makes it sound like people with those features are automatically unattractive which is false. The general combination of features on the person you met was probably not super attractive but there are other people with those same features who will look extremely attractive.
So, you simply haven't met your person. Keep looking, don't rule out any features and always remember that personality is far more important but attractiveness is also necessary. I hope you find your own.
no. attraction is there for a reason. do not force yourself.
You can overlook their physical appearance, if there is something that makes YOU physically attracted to them, which cld be anything. But something has to make the 😺 get 💦
Rising Star
Ive seen some really mismatched couples in my day. I always imagine the less attractive person does some special stuff in the bedroom to equalize things and has a great personality.
Enthusiast
Wasn’t originally attracted to my ex but that grew over time.
Now that I’m dating someone I’m physically attracted to… I have to say it’s better. Atleast in bed.
Be wary of only going for the initial physical attraction. I’ve met lots of people I thought were very attractive, got to know them and meh. Same goes for people you might not initially be attracted to that turn out to be super smart, successful and charming with BDE. It’s always smart to expand your circle and get to know people.