Guilt and shame about working in a legal position for years where, instead of using my law degree (was supposed to do legal work per the job posting), I served as a personal assistant to my boss/did nothing for maybe half the time. I feel like I was paid for work I didn't do. I've since left that job but the guilt and shame remains. I feel that I lack the character of a lawyer and that I am unworthy of the profession. I don't know how to make up for the lost years or how to forgive myself.

I’m a home infusion nurse previously with CVS looking to get into clinical project management. Have PM skill set, just no experience. Anyone have advice on who’s hiring entry level? Any advice in general? It’s rather competitive out there

I’m currently a hr specialist and have 3-4 years experience in hr with 10 years fully admin. I’m now level 7 cipd qualified with a masters in HR and struggling to get into a hr manager role as I’m way overqualified for the role I’m in now. How hard is to break into manager role?

Got offer from IQVIA Bangalore.
Grade 150.
Is that a People Management role ? as in the interview they didn't clarify much. Currently I am a Team Lead. Have already accepted the offer and waiting for workday offer.

Hello, fellow newbie here 😀
Was wondering if yall know of any remote sales jobs with a good starting base salary? I'm doing great at my current role selling senior health insurance (76k give or take a year) but I know I'm capable of selling at a higher commission range. My calls at my last company were all cold (around 100 a day). I got job offers as a recruiter and also a few SDR offers but both fields the base is under 45k. I have a four year degree and one year of sales experience. Thank you

Hello!!! Need referral for a senior/executive management profile in Digital Strategy and Transformation, IT domain and Telecoms industry. Applicant has a lot of strong credentials to his reference and a solid track record. He is looking for North America market opportunities. Please help.

Anyone willing to offer a referral at Splunk? Happy to share more about me in DM.

Mindtree is hiring for Scrum Masters having experience with US Healthcare experience (for Hyderabad and Chennai locations only). Interested folks can DM for more details. Early joiners will be preferred.

Applied for a ~perfect~ job at WMG and would be eternally grateful for a referral 🙏🏻

Hello! Would anybody be able to be a referral for me g do or a position at Mutual of Omaha? Thank you so much!

Hi Fishes, I am being offered C3B grade in TCS as Associate Consultant. Where does this role stand? Junior level, mid senior or senior? Any idea of the grade tree please share.

Anyone can guide me i am working as SME to run cloud operation of AWS, Microsoft and Google. But only operational or project handling (scratch to end) part not the technical part, main role is to set up and run these services from scratch and generate revenue for the organisation. Can anyone guide me which roles can be best fit for me in any other organisation.

Hi everyone, I’m looking for a new role as an Account Manager or CSM in the Adtech industry. I have 10 years of client facing experience. I’d love a DSP/SSP or end to end ad platform. Ideally looking for remote, but am open to a hybrid role in the greater New York City area.

If your goal was to break into Product Mgt, would you go with an Amazon Product role for the experience or a Google Program role for the company culture that better aligns with your values? For the Google role, you’d still plan to pivot to PM at Google but will obviously take 1-3 years depending. Holding all things equal - location, comp etc. Looking for some insight

Hi Fishes,

Good Evening!!

I got an offer from Wells Fargo and planned to join next month. But my current organization compensated and retained me. I informed the same to Wells Fargo HR.

But hiring manager from Wells Fargo scolded me on ping and said that I won't get any opportunity from Wells Fargo in future.

Kindly let me know is it possible to block my profile.

Thanks.

What is standard cash pay and equity value for a bizops manager role at a Series A startup in NYC? For someone with 2yoe

Consulting and successfully being a mother to two young kids seem to be mutually exclusive

I couldn't keep a nanny the entire 2021 - longest one stayed 5 months. We tried doing it all ourselves but I was even more tired ALL the time - snappy with the kids too.

I decided to get an Au Pair. Just when I thought I could finally tell my teams that I have help, it's not working out.

Staffing has suggested an internal role for a while. I'm supposed to be going up for Director this year. Thoughts?

Thoughts on making a move into the family office space while we’re on the brink of potential recession? I’m worried about being the last in first out if I make a move. I work in consumer ops as a Project manager for context and would be moving to a similar role

What does a typical tax senior at Deloitte make in NYC?

Riffing off of an earlier post, what pop culture references do you use that your teams don’t get? Anything from Seinfeld usually gets no laughs here, which is the number one most “Oh no I’m old” thing going on for me at work.

Looking for furniture store recos in Brooklyn (new or second hand). I need a couple pieces including an office chair and would prefer to try them out in person. I'm in Fort Greene but I do have a car for places further out. Thanks for the help.

Had an interview for SM role at ACN 3 weeks back but haven’t heard back. This was skills round interview after HR round. Am I still in the game or it’s a no? Don’t want to followup with HR just yet.

Thoughts on H4B Chelsea?

Hi all,
Juniper networks is hiring test automation engineers. Routing & switching domain. Experience: 3 to 8 years. Please let me know if anyone is interested in this opportunity.

Anyone in BK wants to casual rides today?

People dictating emails that they otherwise could just send themselves. Honestly wtf is this? It takes less time to just write something. It often doesn’t even feel like a didactic method, just a way to hide under more junior associates. There is a senior who does this constantly, over the phone, and it’s just ducking intolerable. Even with emails directed at them, I get a call that then tells me to respond and write back X. It can be such an insufferable thing that just kills time.

Could someone advise the brand/type of shoe that is good for long walks (say 3-5 miles) and is comfortable? I’m not a runner but like long walks and hikes.. thank you

I consistently get ghosted and it sucks. Can’t help but feel like I’m just not the ideal woman or very attractive.

I find ghosting disrespectful and if I’m consistently getting disrespected, then I must be doing something wrong

Hi Sharks,

I joined CTS in the month of October 2022 and in an offer I got Joining bouns of 2 Lac.

Suppose if I put down my paper next year and Last day comes in the month of December 2023, so in such case CTS will take JB from me or what will happen?

Kindly reply.

All Chartered Engineers, specifically Mechanical Engineers. How high can your salary get in the UK if you become chartered and with the right company? £100k a fair ask? Is £200k+ possible??

Hi guys,
As a 2 YOE (backend developer profile) looking for a job change, which parts of system design should I focus on?

My target companies are MAANG and other big tech MNCs.

Do the interviewers ask high level designs? Or should I solely focus on low level designs and machine coding.

Any help is appreciated 😄

How can I invest in a company’s IPO before it actually lists on exchange for trading?

I’m about to demote my title and chop 10 years off my resume. The part that hurts is those years have some great brands and my time at BBDO. But I hear this is the only way to get work again. Ugh.

Would any product managers be willing to review my resume? Trying to transition but I’m not getting traction even with a tiny amount of PM experience.

What is a good amount of earnings to put into an emergency fund?

How is it like to work in Citadel - culture, work , people, diversity? Esp in nyc office

When covid first hit, I was delighted to be working from home. My hours even improved. Now, because of some triggering events, I’m dealing with horrible panic attacks on the daily. I’m dissociating and can’t focus long enough to get work done. I JUST hit a year at this firm and am going on a one month stress leave. Worried I might not kick this mental state in that time. Any advice as to what I can do while on leave so I can come back focused and ready to work?

How should I approach an ominous zoom appointment with supervisinpartner and managing partner? I’m a 3rd year associate. This is a new job, my first day was the first day the whole firm worked from home. It’s also much more challenging and demanding than my previous firm, which is what I wanted, but I haven’t been able to dive in and face the challenge the way I had planned to because I’m really struggling with working from home, both logistically and psychologically....

What is the correct course of action when you find out (secondhand from their spouse) that co-counsel has dementia but refuses to discuss it or withdraw from your case, and is not returning calls? Can't tell client because no proof therefore could be disparaging co-counsel.

Any 🐠 here with fibromyalgia that have managed to deal with sudden flare ups impacting timeline of return of deliverables? Yesterday and today have been complete washes due to first, all over body pain and today, added brain fog and extreme fatigue. I can’t think, can barely lift a pinky. I have items that I expected to get out but are now taking longer and not getting the focus I’d usually bring. Has FM interrupted your schedule before and how did you deal with it?

Does anyone have experience breaking up w a therapist? I've been seeing my therapist for 5+ years for eating disorder treatment and we've been through so much together, but I don't think she's able to help me anymore. While I've stopped my ED behaviors, they've evolved into OCD, and I'm finding that her methods might be making it worse. I think I want to try an OCD expert instead. But I don't know how to end the relationship. Do I just stop going? Do I explain myself? I don't know what to do 🥺

How do i direct message someone

I've been working from home for the last six months and had this constant urge to eat treats I find anywhere around the house. My two daughters find it humorous, but it has rarely made me feel good. Kindly, what can I do to stop?

People with depression in big law- how do you manage? How do you meet your hours? The lack of support/training and being remote has been very hard on me.

I’ve been working to an unhealthy degree lately. And I’ve been making the excuse that I have a lot of work right now, but I’m starting to wonder if I’m addicted to it. Part of it is anxiety and perfectionism. But my behavior is now actively harmful to myself and starting to harm my marriage.

How do I stop? I’m not talking work-life balance. I mean, how do I say, “I don’t care that the client wants this tomorrow and I’m not close to done, I’m going to sleep tonight”?

I’ve been struggling with finding the right antidepressant. I started a few months ago but had really bad side effects and stopped (headaches, lethargy, nausea, inability to concentrate). The withdrawal is just as bad. I’ve noticed that I made mistakes when my mind was in a haze and just can’t seem to work. I think I need to find an antidepressant that works for me but I’m nervous it’s going to make work that much harder. Do I tell someone at my firm? If so, how?

Does anyone else feel like having kids is the only acceptable reason to not be in the office 24/7? If I choose not to have children, do I not have any valid reason to have a life outside work?

Anyone here willing to share their firsthand experience of searching for and selecting a therapist? My wife was kind enough to vet a few through our church and her friends, but wondering if I might find a better fit with a therapist who specializes in working with lawyers or small business owners.

I’m at the point that I start trembling every time I get an email alert. It’s the little things piling up that is getting to me. The to do list full of, “send emails to X about Y,” “follow-up re this,” “revise the 100 small things the baby lawyer drafted.” Tasks that might take 15 minutes to an hour individually, but all together it’s a lot. I’m the bottle neck. I’m the one who needs to move these things along. But there’s always something bigger and more urgent. Nothing’s ever FINISHED.

3rd yr here in a mid size firm. I’ve been struggling in the mental health dept. I was on leave for 3 wks and have returned to work in June. However, i still feel like a corpse everyday and have zero motivation to do anything. I have noticed my work product declining and I feel extremely burnt out with no hope for the future. I have been trying to get appointment with a psychiatrist but they are either not working or booked up. I want to get better but don’t know where/who to turn to. Advice?

Mental health issues in our profession are finally being recognized. While mental health issues are not unique to lawyers, the profession and it's client service mantra present unique challenges.

question of the day: why did you join this bowl? Since I asked, I will start: I’ve been on a journey of recovery from legal-overachiever-workaholism. Changed jobs, city and environment and still working hard to recover from burnout that is, unfortunately, part and parcel of the legal profession.

Does anyone have any advise when it comes to navigating getting help and your firm. I had a tough month mentally. But I reached out to my local bar’s LAP. I’m starting the process of seeing a therapist. But my dreads still here. I’m panicking about being short on hours, falling behind on my cases and explaining to my boss I know I’m behind at work but I am working on it. Any advise will be greatly appreciated.

Reminder to everyone: use your 2021 vacation time. Don’t let it pass you by just because you’re not traveling. Take a long weekend once a month to nap and eat chips in sweat pants all day. We all need to do our part to normalize self care, and sitting at home doing “nothing” is just as worthy of a vacation day as pina coladas on the beach.

Is it me or does depression in big law mostly affect single overworked women around age 30?