Is anyone else experiencing a new wave of covid anxiety due to the stress of figuring out the holidays? Got in an argument with a family member about safety guidelines and testing needing to happen and I’ve been feeling paralyzed by anxiety all day.

Moving from T2 to McKinsey. How do vacation requests work? I have family and friends getting married this fall in weddings delayed because of covid, but I’ll just have started so wanted to get a sense of how realistic taking vacation this fall would be and how to approach taking it (e.g. mention to HR, staffing). TIA!

I was trying to figure out what my personality trait was a few days ago. It’s depression, my personality trait aside from work is depression

Vaccinated and going to Chicago for a graduation. What is the bar situation right now? Possible to walk in or are reservations necessary? And any bar recs are appreciated (staying near Gold Coast).

Want to try making my own cannabutter. Has anyone donor? How much weed should I use - 40grama? And how long to boil w butter?

Has anyone ever experienced a sharp stabbing pain on the left side of your chest (under breast) that lasts for a few seconds and goes away?

Could this be a type of heartburn?

I’ve been to the doctor and she didn’t think I should be too worried because I’m young and healthy and it doesn’t hurt to the touch, but still can’t figure out what it is.

Recently decided to purchase a hair removal package for my face. They use Candela lasers. Can anyone attest to the effectiveness of this procedure?

Started vyvance. I’m eating a lot, super hydrated, no caffeine and I still feel super weird. I’m calm and my brain feels great but physically my eyes are soo dry and my body just feels disassociated. It’s only been three days. Does this pass?

Are you seeing Mulptile Inflammatory Syndrome in Children (MIS-C)?

When it comes to therapy do I look up a place online and make an appointment or do I need some sort of referral? Not sure if I need to see a therapist or physiatrist really.

Hi Fishies, I’m 32yrs old and went with IVF due to male factor. I had 5AA t/f(modified FET) on 11/07, today (11/16)I had blood work, nurse told HCG level is: 168.5, and will be checking again on 11/18, to see if HCG is raising. Is this good value? This is my first time IVF , little worried but again not keeping many hopes and become depressed I’d something goes wrong. Meanwhile trying to stay positive as well.

So I have to be vegan for a while for health reasons, has anyone else been through this and how did you survive? Lol and also please share any cooking or recipe tips if you're up to it!! Thank you so much.

How did you cope with post-grad depression? I feel like my life has stalled a bit.

I have limited problems limiting carbs. That said, it seems my protein is always inline with fats. The two
Usually are similar as I’ll eat steak, and cheese. Has anyone else has this problem?

Pandemic induced pressure & burnout. Is every agency bad at present? Desperate to move on before it kills me but worried it’s not diff anywhere else. Hearing people are off sick in lots of agencies.
Or does anyone have positive experiences to share?

Is it standard or common for ad agencies to cover egg freezing and/or IVF? It’s a common perk in the US

For folks that are in the interview process, are u negotiating for best salary or just taking what you get , asking because market is slow cause of Covid.

We are a firm of 5 transactional attorneys and the bonus structure is very unclear. The usual “based on personal performance and firm profitability” language. I wonder how this is calculated in general. What is the percentage bracket of the bonus? Assume it is a high performance 9+ year attorney and the firm is profitable (even with COVID). The based salary is low $120k. Firm is in Tx. I’d love to hear your comments.

Anyone interested in working with a health coach to support you with nutrition, career, relationship and overall lifestyle change? DM or comment below for more details!

Might be off topic, but guys please, take care of your health. I've been rejected by all companies in the last 2 months.
I had my Walmart interview today and it went really well. And guess what? I got a rejection email.
I felt dizziness while working and fell down today.
I had to go to the doctor due to the anxiety and stress I was carrying since the last 2 months. It has affected my health.

It's important to push yourself to achieve your goals, but don't forget to "Live" in the process.

Hello Fishes

I have been offered a role on Nokia, Bangalore. Wanted to understand the work culture, hybrid work timings/ flexi work hours , health Insurance details .
Can someone please help here?

Hi fishes,what is the current situation for WFO in nokia...is it 2 days or have increased.

male fishies: where do you guys buy your ties?

Successful commercial banking exists?

Hello. Looking to date again….anyone have idea of best app for late 40s…

I have an offer with coforge in chennai They said it would be remote location(wfh) or client location... What are the clients generally they have for pega development

Hi Folks! Anyone has an idea of how is first year senior offered in VHCOL/NYC/SF Bay Area? Thanks!

Hey everyone

Trying to figure out how much salary I can ask

I'm an experience embedded developer with 5 YOE. Skills include baremetal and RTOS based embedded firmware , schematics, pcb design and requirements analysis in instrumentation and IOT domains I have experience leading junior engineers, writing techno commercial proposals and some project management.

Current designation : Module lead
Current CTC : 16.5 lpa

“My only concern is that...”

Guys, anyone aware of EDIFECS company?

Ok, after an HR screening (and salary requirements) I had 3 interviews. Then HR calls for references and to be “reminded” of salary requirements. All 3 references now contacted. Will I get an offer?

Supposed to go to Mexico next weekend but getting worried now of covid / travel req, back into states. Anyone get stuck from travel?

Any suggestions for a doable road trip for 3/4 days from LA in late Jan / early Feb?

Hello guys I will be joining PWC india kolkata location. Can anyone please let me what all welcome gift they send apart from laptop?
I have seen few posts where new joinee from PWC sdc getting lots of useful electronic items as welcome gifts.

Is this same for PWC india guy? 😊

Hi! My peloton is arriving tomorrow and it’s motivated me to stick with a routine and eat healthier given how much that thing costs 😅. I’ve never done pre/post workout shakes before. Does anyone have any recommendations on which protein powders to look into and when to drink the shakes? And also like what to mix with it? Thanks in advance!

When I was going into courtrooms, a bad night of sleep didn’t matter-I’d snap to attention as soon as I got into court. I’m doing phone hearings now and the focus isn’t there as much. Any ideas?

If you’re reading this, go drink some water!

Choose to be happy today

Most/Least stressful areas of practice (in either transition or litigation)

Has anyone had good experiences taking ashwagandha for daily stress?

Reminder to everyone: use your 2021 vacation time. Don’t let it pass you by just because you’re not traveling. Take a long weekend once a month to nap and eat chips in sweat pants all day. We all need to do our part to normalize self care, and sitting at home doing “nothing” is just as worthy of a vacation day as pina coladas on the beach.

People with depression in big law- how do you manage? How do you meet your hours? The lack of support/training and being remote has been very hard on me.

I’ve been working to an unhealthy degree lately. And I’ve been making the excuse that I have a lot of work right now, but I’m starting to wonder if I’m addicted to it. Part of it is anxiety and perfectionism. But my behavior is now actively harmful to myself and starting to harm my marriage.

How do I stop? I’m not talking work-life balance. I mean, how do I say, “I don’t care that the client wants this tomorrow and I’m not close to done, I’m going to sleep tonight”?

Anyone here willing to share their firsthand experience of searching for and selecting a therapist? My wife was kind enough to vet a few through our church and her friends, but wondering if I might find a better fit with a therapist who specializes in working with lawyers or small business owners.

What about legal work is currently causing your mental health struggles?

Mine’s the hours, which is not normally my issue. I billed 230 for June and July and am already at 145 for August. My ability to focus is getting worse by the day, so I’m working longer to bill the same hours and have had to pull a couple all nighters. I burst into tears this morning when a client changed plans and now wants a major project by end of month, on top of my other deadlines next week... I just want to sleep.

When covid first hit, I was delighted to be working from home. My hours even improved. Now, because of some triggering events, I’m dealing with horrible panic attacks on the daily. I’m dissociating and can’t focus long enough to get work done. I JUST hit a year at this firm and am going on a one month stress leave. Worried I might not kick this mental state in that time. Any advice as to what I can do while on leave so I can come back focused and ready to work?

question of the day: why did you join this bowl? Since I asked, I will start: I’ve been on a journey of recovery from legal-overachiever-workaholism. Changed jobs, city and environment and still working hard to recover from burnout that is, unfortunately, part and parcel of the legal profession.

Anyone participating in dry January or done similar things in the past? Did you notice an effect on mental health or other benefits?

I have chronic health issues and I’m severely depressed. I can’t even get myself to work anymore. If I don’t quit, I’m in serious danger of being fired. I feel that I need to just quit and take time off to get better but feel that it will be a stain on my career. I’m a pretty junior lawyer. Any advice. I just can’t do any work at all and I’m my anxiety and depression is spiraling out of control. I see a therapist I try to cope and it’s not working.

Mental health issues in our profession are finally being recognized. While mental health issues are not unique to lawyers, the profession and it's client service mantra present unique challenges.

Gripe- there is no room for a sick day in this profession. Big closing coming up. Have a bad cold. Have billed 40+ hours in the last 3 days.

Why do lawyers celebrate a culture of poor health?

I’ve had a really tense, emotionally exhausting week. Things wrapped up yesterday and now my body feels so strung out and exhausted. Any tips for coming down from being so strung out without relying on toxic habits and just shutting down/procrastinating? (My brain is saying “go for a run” and my body is getting stuck picking at my eyebrows for two hours) I feel like my central nervous system is on a roller coaster.

How do i direct message someone

I’ve been struggling with finding the right antidepressant. I started a few months ago but had really bad side effects and stopped (headaches, lethargy, nausea, inability to concentrate). The withdrawal is just as bad. I’ve noticed that I made mistakes when my mind was in a haze and just can’t seem to work. I think I need to find an antidepressant that works for me but I’m nervous it’s going to make work that much harder. Do I tell someone at my firm? If so, how?