Dear ladies - Tips on how to be authoritative and assertive at work.

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Build authentic confidence. Acknowledge what you know and what you don’t - be willing to speak up and offer opinions without overthinking it, or ask for clarification around what you want to know more about. Being willing to admit lack of understanding is a big indicator to me that someone is confident - just do it in a matter of fact tone. Also do your homework - nothing beats being and feeling prepared.

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Lower your voice and wear a black turtleneck everyday.

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I tried this and now I’m in jail. Can someone help me with next steps?

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This sucks but I found if I smile less during meetings etc, people take me more seriously. I’ve had so many comments saying how young I look (I’m 32) and I don’t feel that it benefits me at work. Being less cheery and happy helps me come across more authoritatively.

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Young is hard. I’ve been on my own since I was 15. Graduated with my BS by 20. Like. Of course I’m younger than my peers, I started being an adult 3-6 years before all of them. I hate it. I was recently told not to pursue my MBA because it wouldn’t even help me until I’m in my mid to late 30s as I won’t be considered for the job I want with it until then. I’m 28 and already a senior level manager and just kinda stuck until my age catches up with me 🙃

Being a bitch is easy, commanding a room and earning respect is hard. Work on securing trust and partnership, be assertive to secure the win for you, the team, and the collective goal. Authority these days will get you in trouble, it is all about negotiation.

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Stopping using filler words like “um” “like” and “you know” among others can help a lot to projecting confidence.

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I have a entire team that does that, but they are cronies of the person who bought them in to the company- he is a bit better but smart enough to cover them all and pay them well. It really is in who you know. I cringe when we have meetings and they talk! I hashtag each “um” and “like” to keep my sanity!

Stop apologizing and say thank you for your patience instead of

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