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Sounds like he is playing you. Move on. If someone is really into you, they will tell you and be with you and you wouldn’t question it.
Your love language might be words of affirmation. This guy does not speak the same love language as you. You’re also making excuses for him so you might be very attached and comfortable and in those cases it’s hard to move on. But the longer you stick around, the harder it will get to actually move on. Don’t try to rationalize his lack of words/actions. Listen to your head not heart.
Honestly it seems you're really just looking for clarity on where things stand. If that's the case, then keep it simple and ask it directly.
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High value men and women both have other options so I would focus on yours and if he wants to come back begging you can evaluate then.
Mature adults will also have a calm conversation about things (not too many mature adults out there but maybe?) It sounds like you opened it up to the dialogue but he did not bite. (To be fair men are not great communicators.)
Also, it was cute how you said “he takes some weed” 😅
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I don’t know if the voice of reason is the best answer of matters of the heart but glad to share some perspective.
My measure has been this after a breakup: am I devastated at the loss? If not, then maybe it wasn’t worth chasing. It’s when your heart feels like you can’t be without this person that you know you really have something to hang on to. Or at least apply some of that reason to make sure it’s a compatible fit. Good luck! 💚
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Happy to share 😊
Ex bf and myself are relatively shy people. He is older 55 plus and in good shape but takes weed. I am in early 40s and look younger. We started dating in February and everything was going good. One particular weekend , we had a not so good weekend. He woke up irked and said something to the effect that it’s not working. When I tried to gently probe, he said there is this and other things and it’s not working for us. It felt like he was looking for an excuse to leave.. I left and never looked back..he had been ext sweet during the course of the rel so I couldn’t make sense of the situation…other than asking him how’s he doing once after 2 weeks I didn’t initiate much contact… he sent a message a week since the fateful day…
He now expressed that he d like to drop off some good for me (stuff he cooks as part of his mea prep)… I thought he is either guilty or wants to say something… he came over dropped the food , talked causally about all the general things and then said he will see me soon ….I told him that I appreciate it but he doesn’t have to and that he does not owe me anything and he was like you ll be out of this food soon……
I don’t get it, he’s treating me like family still, but didn’t say anything about rekindling or bring up the breakup at all
When we first started dating he would tell me that everything about me is cute … the clothes I wear, the comments I make, the spoon I use… when he was over to drop food , he again said “cute” out of nowhere …. His body language looks like he is still into me…. I don’t want to initiate a conversation as he was the one to initiate the breakup …
It wasn’t a return your things visit either.. he has some of my Tupperware which he didn’t bring .. I didn’t ask either… I offered to return some of his stuff and he took it reluctantly
He’s totally confusing me …!!
Earlier when we would meet he would start walking towards me … I d do the same and we would hug… today he started walking towards me and I didn’t ….