Asking for a friend - anyone staying in a marriage just for the kid(s)?

It's not like the marriage is terrible or unhealthy, but they would take an out if not for having had the kids.

Anyone else experience this? I'm wondering how common this is.

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As I child of divorce I say “staying for the kids” is a horrible idea. Kids aren’t stupid, we know when you’re unfulfilled.

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Yeah, totally agree. Feel like most people just don't get that. End up living some subpar version of their lives

Ya I am. We make a good team as parents but when we're alone together it's pretty boring.

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