Do any other women here work in a male-dominated industry? For me, I felt excluded from my first job long ago since I was one of the lone women. It didn't make me feel welcome and I felt like no one respected me. I think now I'm not as confident in myself at work, due to this experience.

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25+ years in tech - I have seen it all. True confidence comes from within and is not something that can be easily diminished or taken away —in fact, you should adjust your perspective and see the strength and bravery it takes to work in a male dominated industry and start tracking your wins instead of loses. For most of my career, I was never welcomed and being the only female in a leadership role, I was a walking HR red flag reminder that they had to curb their toxic male behavior and actually do some work. Respect was earned over time (like a very long time) and I learned to have a strong voice, not take any of their s***, and I took my seat at the table instead of waiting for someone to offer it. That was my style, yours may be different. You choose your trajectory, don’t let this experience dictate your self-worth.

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I am not but I would not have a problem doing so.

It’s totally demoralizing when a bad work environment makes you question yourself.

Agreed. It's not fun :(

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