I feel like I am very naive and cannot read between the lines, so I can’t tell if someone is trying to fuck me over or not. This leads me to be extremely skeptical of others’ intentions, and makes me less confident that I can influence others, and in general really erodes my self-confidence. Does anyone else feel similarly? If so, how have you dealt with it?

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Yes I feel this way a lot and TBH I have good intuition. People in general are nice, but often angling for their own gain. I’ve found myself most comfortable with acquaintances instead of friends. People I’ve kept as friends eventually disappoint big time or they get jealous when a new job or big raise comes. Acquaintances you kinda know it’s shallow- you both enjoy the same stuff, know there’s no expectation, and when it stops being fun you move on. This isn’t ever sexual or dating, I’m happily married. I specifically try not to make super close close friends anymore, got burned too many times.

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