Feel like I painted myself in a corner by always being so accommodating, so positive, such a ‘team player.’ I feel like I’ve slowed my own career and trajectory and opportunities by being the nice guy, while others who are outspoken or throw fits if they don’t get their way are caved for. How do I alter course?

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I like to think those things even out in ways we can’t see right now. It will balance out for you.

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Unfortunately 90% of those who “succeed” in this industry do so by being coat-tail riding, self-promoting “salesmen.”

You know what you have to do… but like me, you couldn’t live with yourself for being that way.

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Don’t believe this. Nobody wants to work with difficult people. Those people you are nice to will be your boss or coworkers 10-15 years from now. Stand your ground, don’t be a pushover. But nice is never the wrong move imo-

I appreciate this. Just disheartening when I try to be a team player and try to avoid the drama and there’s people going on shoots and moving up because they throw hissy fits if they feel like work is being take.man away

I feel this. I always let my partners politic while I did work. But when I didn’t have them, I realized I had to advocate for myself or fall by the wayside.

That said, there’s a difference between being aggressive and being annoying. Just like there’s a difference between being helpful and a doormat.

Push yourself to do what you know you need to do without becoming entitled and you’ll progress faster and still be able to live with yourself.

In the same vein, I feel like people who are toxic but still well liked for whatever reason (like a “mean girl”) get ahead.

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