I have a coworker who’s a functional alcoholic. I’ve never dealt with a situation like this before so I don’t even know if it’s my place to say something

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Isn’t our entire industry high functioning alcoholics?

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...no

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If it’s not affecting work performance, it’s really not your concern. You can speak to them as a friend, but that could jeopardize your working relationship. I personally would just let it be unless they were a close friend

If it does impact their work, that’s when you talk to them first - and if things don’t change, you talk to someone higher up

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Are we talking “American alcoholic” or “English alcoholic”?

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Is it Jake? If so, he’s cool

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We have some advice about that in the Sober bowl! If they are impacting you when they’re drunk, say something. You can also just say that you’re concerned. And here are the three outcomes 1) they never get sober afterward 2) you comment impacts them to get sober 3) they don’t get sober right away, but may get sober later. I’m grateful for the people who said stuff to me before I got sober, even though I didn’t get sober right away.

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Functional as in, they drink a lot but still function?

It’s not reallllllllly your problem until they are dysfunctional, which, if they really are an alcoholic, is going to happen whether or not you say something.

I’m assuming from the way you wrote this that you’re not super close to them either (otherwise you probably would have said something)

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That’s exactly right. They still function but I know they’ve been drinking all day long because they like to brag about it

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whatever. Suggesting prayer isn't always a meaningless phrase. this person is suffering. I pray for people who I know are suffering.

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Yeah why do you think this? What is the situation you are in? Need more details

Nothing major happened, but I know this is a thing so, not sure if I should say something.

It’s not your business if it’s not affecting their job

Yeah, that’s a tricky one. I watched my uncle fall under the grip of alcoholism for years. Just about every family member said something to him and he ignored it, until he couldn’t. Fortunately, he sought treatment before everything crumbled, but dude was stubborn about starting it. I guess you could say I’m of the mind that every little mention helps, because any other alcoholic could be just as stubborn to seek treatment. But, definitely be gentle about it. Those are my thoughts anyway

pray for him/her. nothing you can say that they don't already know.

I think the thoughts and prayers machine is a little backed up from all the school shootings.
Action or lack of might be the better course.

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