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I got sober at 34 too (7 years sober now). There’s never a wrong time to get sober, and the best time is when you’re sick and tired of being sick and tired.
I got sober at 35 and would also be considered a high bottom, but it was finally getting to the point where my job was being impacted. Had I not gotten help and lost my job, I have no doubt that I would have turned into the daily drunk that I used as an example of why I am not alcoholic. To your point about relationships, I was chronically single at that time as well.
I started going to AA just to get my boss off my back and to learn to drink like a gentleman, and I did not think I was an alcoholic for quite some time, which looking back was pure delusion. 12 years later, I can still think to myself "maybe this was all just a big overreaction," and then I'll get to a meeting and leave realizing yet again why I do what I do to stay sober.
Today, I am married, we have an amazing 8-year-old son, and neither my wife nor our son has seen me drink. I've had and lost the dream job, plenty of ups and downs.
, but manage to stay sober through it all.
Thank you!
I did the 90 in 90 thing with AA mainly because I just needed deep accountability to get myself going. I think it helped me really understand a lot about my drinking and the future problems it could have really led to for me. I then did stop doing AA and haven’t found it necessary for my sobriety (I have 2 years). However I have a powerful support structure in my family. If I didn’t have that or something happened there, AA would be something I’d lean on.
I’d seriously suggest giving it a really serious go and make your own judgement from there. It’s impossible to judge it or how much you need it from the outside. Absolute worst case is you get another tool in your toolkit to lean on in times of need down the road.
Appreciate it!
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I got sober at 34. Similar in that I didn't actually hit an irreparable bottom but I saw the trend line heading downhill, faster. And it was exhausting.
Hell yea!!
Alcohol negatively impacted my ability to have deep meaningful relationships and my self confidence. 37 days sober now! Have only had a few days of true temptation (1 when I was fasting), but mostly have felt the strength to say no. My question is for those in a similar boat (I.e., not a stereotypical alcoholic but definitely have a disordered relationship with it), did you join AA and has it been helpful? Pardon the arrogance that might come off with this question, as I don’t FEEL like I need to join a group to stay sober, but I certainly am open to it. Any thoughts? Thank you
Thank you friend