For some reason, I tend to get fired after a year or two at every agency I’ve worked at. As a result, I have severe PTSD from it to the point where I over-analyze and overthink/over stress about every little thing (such as my D frequently canceling our 1:1s to little comments like “a lot of Qs have popped up recently and use your resources” and “we talked about this last time”). I really like my current position/company and don’t want to get fired again but I’m really stressing out. Any advice?

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Get therapy, you probably don’t realize how much your stubbornness is impacting your career. There’s some unresolved childhood trauma and bad habits that you have to work through.

Stubbornness or being argumentative comes from an intense desire to be validated or understood. In life, most people won’t know how to validate you, so you have to make peace with this so you don’t drive yourself crazy (and others in the process).

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To survive in advertising, you have to be able to take criticism without interpreting it as a personal attack.

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If you have developed PTSD from being fired in advertising, you might be in the wrong industry. All of the greats get fired. Because getting fired is NOT a reflection of you as a person, it's a reflection of the company and their culture.
Advertising is a high tension, fast-moving parts industry. And you gotta be a little Anthony Bourdain about it and love the mess.

Now, with that said, if you feel overwhelmed, like it's hard to stay caught up with all the fast-moving bits, and your manager says, "Use your resources", that's okay. There could be a few things going one.

1- the company isn't your culture fit. And your manager isn't the manager that will get you far in your career. You need a manager who will champion you, train you, pull you up with them. Are they that? If they aren't that, then go find a manager who is that.

2- Find tech and ai tools that work with your brain to make the work easier. Have ai do the hard work of keeping you organized. I am dyslexic AI saves me. I even have ai read me analysis of decks so I dont have to physically read. Invest the time to find the rught tools for your brain. And invest money in those tools. And if tech doesn't cut it or you have $$$ to spare, invest in a professional coach.

3-Do it your way. You will always feel less than and question yourself if you attempt to mimic others. If you do it your way, you will find what you are amazing at and start to excel and shine. You have to find your voice, your vibe, your distinct point of view.... this is also why having a tool that works with your brain is important.
And if you can't do it your way in your current role, then bring your thinking to the table in other ways. Make presentations for your department on topics they should know about. Introduce new research tools or methodology. Create a running club for your coworkers, etc. As long as it shows you showing up with your brian and your passion, you will shine.

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In bullet number 2, you mention working with AI tools. What are your go-to?

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Yeah unfortunately in this industry turnover is high and expected.

Get a therapist. You're not necessarily wrong to be paranoid but it will help to talk to someone about it.

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