Fourth-year associate. I will soon be commuting to Midtown Manhattan to a firm that pays market. From a financial perspective, am I completely nuts to be driving in and parking? Between tolls and parking, it’s going to be close to $10K a year as opposed to the bus/train being between $2500-$3000 a year. Thing is, bus/rail is pretty reliable in the morning (in terms of availability of options), but if I’m working late service gets dodgy and I like the freedom of having my own vehicle (cont.)

Do the big 4 and BDO/GT/RAM have similar benefits?

Marriott brand hotel burned collar on two of my favourite shirts (Eton, ~$350 USD each). Hotel said they would compensate me but I haven’t heard anything yet. What to do?

Hi
I have 2 offers for SDET role with ~7 YOE
Amadeus => 23.5 + 2
Zebra => 26.5 +2.5+1.5(Joining bonus)

I am planning to join zebra. Does anyone know hows the work culture, environment and job safety at zebra.

Yesterday (Thanksgiving) my husband accused me of being a workaholic because I opted to spend 10 minutes doing some necessary work before the festivities. He said, "Its a holiday! Spend it with us!" He was wearing noise cancelling headphones, watching a football game on his phone as he said this. My 5 yr old was watching Bluey reruns on the TV and my 7 year old was killing bad guys on a computer game. I was bored! No one was talking to me! I enjoy my job. Does that make me a workaholic!?

Do you guys think that the gaming industry still has future?
Gaming companies are struggling after the “pandemic” and I work in that industry. I wonder if should move to other IT industries or I should stay

Anybody down for a quick meet up today? We can grab a coffee/ drink of your choice. Just moved here and WFH has me really fried.

When did everyone making the big $ break 100k for the first time?

Banks title difference - some banks have ED and D - which one is senior ? Jpmc got ED, & D. Citi has svp, director. What’s the total comp for these in tech or back office functions?

So, stupid question. At my biglaw firm we’ve taken paycuts and the partners have slowed their distributions. What does this actually mean? Management would not tell us if they were actually taking a pay cut. At the end of the year, if profits stay the same because of our paycuts, will they still make the same amount?

I am offered to join Big4 company in UK, FDD stream. Reading, Bristol, Leeds or Manchester. Which city is the Best for professional development and for living? I dont want to move to London. Thanks!

Seeking advice: I’m a 6th year litigation associate and I want to go in-house, but I’m afraid that my experience has shut down any real options. I have general commercial litigation experience and have been in product liability for a couple of years. I’m getting no call-backs, even for product companies. Any advice on how I can possibly land an in-house job?

Considering buying a three or four-plex and occupying one of the units myself. For anyone here that has lived in their own multi-family investment property, was this a turn off for prospective tenants? Any other problems I should anticipate?

Anyone here have writing as a side hustle? If so, did you do copywriting or writing articles for companies?

Currently looking at 3-4 more hours of work on this late Friday night, and my FIL has decided to sleep on the couch next to my desk and snore like an absolute jackhammer. They are visiting us and I have no power to ask him to kindly gtfo. This is some fresh hell.

Thoughts on DOCU? Revenue growth has been great, diversifying revenue, leader and incumbent in a fast growing space that’s probably not going away… down 75% from ATHz

With the fall of GTB and We Are Unlimited, what do you think is the future of the one-client agency model?

How hard to pick up plaintiffs employment law, both in terms of getting clients and learning substance? PI solo in CA here.

Last night my 9yo said, “wow mom, Idina Menzel is 48 but she looks way younger than you!” (I am 38.) Then I put makeup on this morning and she said, “well, you look nice but you still look worn out...

About to start a solo jury trial and SO and both kids (7, 3) have the flu. Not the first time this has happened. Feel like the gods are telling me to get out of lit, but I can't write memos the rest of my life. Ugh!

Anybody get divorced as a young-ish associate with little kids? I think I'm on that path and really struggling

My wife and I are both terrible housekeepers and our clutter is overwhelming us. We have two kids under 3 and a wonderful nanny but we need more help at home. How do we throw money at this problem? Where do we start to get ongoing professional help decluttering, organizing, cleaning, etc.? What has worked for you?

Dyslexia! After having our kindergartener son tested (privately) related to ADHD, we were told he may have dyslexia too (which would explain why he struggles so much with phonics but is amazing at sight words). He has a very high IQ. As a voracious reader, I am finding myself unexpectedly distraught that something that I have loved so much will be such a struggle for him, and worrying that it will affect his motivation and may steer him away from things he may otherwise love.
Tips/Commiseration?

My marriage is struggling and we have to pack up the kids and fake it till we make it with my in laws for most of their Christmas break. I don't want a divorce but things are not good, and it's hard to pretend they are even in front of the kids. Looking for advice I guess, or just a kind word. Really don't want the in-laws finding out and trying to put their two cents in, and neither does she.

How do you deal with the stress of knowing that other people on your team are working weekends and you aren’t? I’m a mom with two kids so working in weekends is tough for me. Cont. in comments:

Where would you begin w/ setting up your own solo practice? I am a military veteran and in need of some serious help (w/ starting a business that is). It is a long story, of which I might reveal more depending on the responses in the thread. Thanks in advance for entertaining such a broad question!

Does anyone manage without having a nanny? Kids age 0-10

looking to start a family. Prob 1-2 kids in the next 5 years - should I wait till I leave big law? I'm nervous about what time is crucial to be around the newborns. Adoption if relevant. Any advice?

I work as of counsel at a small firm directly with 1 other attorney. I have worked w/ the other attorney for the last 10 years. How much paid maternity leave is reasonable to request?

How are people managing WFH with their kids? We have a 2 year old and 5 year old and my partner is also wfh. Small condo, no nanny. It’s freaking insane and my husband and I are fighting every day....

Anyone else juggling having kids at home during the winter break and trying to work from home around your SO (who is also working from home). The holidays are always SO hectic at my place and I'm feeling like a failure, my mother was a perfect housewife and I'm far from it lol. Other parents struggling with this?

Biglaw parents, where do you choose to live and why? Somewhere close to work to avoid commute and spend more time with kids? Suburbs?

What are parents paying for baby sitters these days? Wife and I going out tonight for about 3-4 hours and have a local college student babysitting our toddler daughter tonight. Low-medium cost of living city and daughter will be asleep for most of the time. We’re thinking $15-20 per hour and make sure there are plenty of snacks around. Appropriate?

Recently had to disclose to an equity partner that juggling caseload with caring for a sick partner and resulting de facto solo parenting has been hard. Response was totally supportive but she did ask to alert managing partner, and I said OK. In line for a partner track promotion in next few months, did I make a mistake sharing this, like I can't be trusted to manage accounts on my own and now promotion, badly needed on one income, is in jeopardy?

My two young toddlers are home from daycare for the next 1.5 weeks for the holidays, and I have off work to watch them. It’s only been 2 days, and I’m so exhausted that I’m counting down the days until I go back to work and they are in daycare. Does anyone have any tips for enjoying this time? I love my kids so much, but how do SAHMs do this every day? I’m so drained already, and I have no patience left…

For parents with school-age kiddos (kindergarten up), what do you do for childcare? Thinking about giving up our nanny, but worried about juggling days off, sick days, and summer break.

I was planning on trying to start a family this month, but I just landed an associate position at a prestigious firm I’ve wanted for years. I don’t want to postpone having kids - (cont below)