Biglaw single parents? I’m a recently single parent. My ex is (almost) completely out of the picture now. Any other biglaw single parents with tips or tricks to making this work on my own?

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I’m a single parent. It’s hard. I have a very good relationship with the caretakers at daycare who babysit for me. I also have a very good home office setup. I leave at 5 every day for daycare pickup, feed, play with and bathe my 18 month old, and then put her to bed. Once she’s asleep at around 7:15 I go online and work until I have to stop.

Currently looking to go in house but I’ve been doing this about a year. Being fairly senior has helped as I can delegate before I leave the office and then look at what I’ve gotten back when I’m in front of the keyboard.

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