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Hello RSM coworkers! I am thrilled to be moving to RSM into a Scheduler roll. I just found out yesterday and want to be as prepared as possible in the next steps.
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How long does the background study take? I'm guessing admin staff have a study that is faster and less complicated than someone in Tax ect.
When training at home what did you need that wasn't supplied by RSM? My home office is well stocked but I want to be as prepared as possible.
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I didn’t have my toddler visit me in the hospital. At home meeting was perfect for us. Also, divide and conquer worked best for us. I took care of baby and myself and husband took care of house and toddler. My toddler loved watching movies in bed with me and newborn the first few weeks. And loved doing tummy time and playtime with the newborn.
Not sure about handling toddler because i don’t know your kid. But pls pls don’t be tempted to pic him up even if you feel “okay” or “no pain”. It’s a major abdominal surgery and you need to give it months to heal even if you get the 6-week clearance down the line.
Better be safe than sorry. I have heard horror stories of stitches coming apart and then you’re in another medical issue for no reason at all.
Definitely. Better to stick to snuggles while sitting on the couch
Following, soon to be in this situation. Dreading not being there for his bedtime especially 😕
Just something we did — since I was with the baby so much, I set aside bedtime and still did it with my toddler most nights. I would feed the baby right before bath time and then dad had time with the baby and I did bedtime with my toddler. I also set aside some time first thing in the morning for my toddler.
If you have a partner, they should be picking him up. Easy to normalize, you stay in bed and they bring the toddler in all excited yay and put them gently on the bed. ‘Mommy has a booboo on her tummy’ etc. make up for it in excitement vs being as physical as usual.
Just went through the same very recently (c section + toddler). We didn't prep my 20mo toddler or have him visit us at the hospital. When we got home, I went in first and showered him with hugs and kisses and then we very casually put the baby on the counter in her car seat and gave the toddler an ice cream cone, and he ate it while we introduced him, but didn't put any pressure on him to interact or make it a big deal because we don't want him to feel like she's getting more/better attention.
As for picking him up, it's been hard! Lots of tears when I say "no, mama can't pick you up right now" but I've been trying to spend a lot of 1:1 time with him reading books on the couch and it didn't take him long to understand that he gets more hugs from mama if she's sitting on the couch. Toddlers are smarter and more adaptable than you think!
We prepped my toddler for a few weeks before my due date. I had bad back pain anyway so she understood I had a boo boo and couldn’t pick her up but that we could still cuddle on the couch together. 2 year olds understand a lot. …“mommy has a boo-boo and can’t pick you up but if you climb up on the couch and we can cuddle”, “I can hold your hand up the stairs or we can wait for daddy”.
I had my second in May, and my oldest was just over 2. We did decide to have my oldest visit with grandma and grandpa in the hospital and it went fine. The 6 week recovery is legit - my first c-section did not heal well (not because of me doing anything wrong, but I hemorrhaged and lost a lot of blood so my body wouldn’t heal), and it required wound care and at home nurses, so don’t mess around with that.
The hardest part is definitely once you start to feel better at around 2 weeks, remembering that your body still needs to rest. Get some help to make sure you aren’t lifting the toddler (grandparents, partner, extra babysitting, etc.). My husband took 5 weeks for parental leave this time, and he basically always took the oldest, and limited my need to do any kind of lifting. I agree with the other comments - find something fun and non physical to do with your oldest to fill his cup.
My toddler eventually understood the no lifting, but it definitely was difficult at times. Good luck, mom!
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I chose to have my toddler meet the newborn at home. It made things so much calmer for everyone, and he felt comfortable interacting with the baby before eventually heading off to his playroom once he was over it.
No advice - just here to say it is/will be hard, but as hard as it is it will go very fast. I felt constantly guilty in the newborn phase, like I wasn’t giving enough to either. You will get through it!