Going to give notice soon, to a manager I’ve had a rocky relationship with, who is likely to get mad. Has anyone here has a similar situation? Any tips on doing so gracefully and minimizing damage?

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Isn’t that the best to be able to see him fume when he can’t do anything?

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I don’t understand this concern? Your worried about telling the manager that you don’t like that your quitting...seems like a dream scenario, I’d kick my feet up on their desk and tell them "I quit” with a smile while sipping my coffee

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Had a similar situation with the partner at my previous gig. imo just be clear, outline the reasons why you are leaving, thank him if he was involved in your development and tell him your decission to leave is a taken decission... so he won't think your trying to negotiate or something like that, unless you want to negotiate... keep it simple and if he gets mad just listen and reiterate that you thank him for whatever you learned there...

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We have overlapping networks so I have some interest in doing this in a way that minimizes damage to some extent...

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Take him/her out to coffee. Say, “I felt you should be the first to know. We might have had our disagreements in the past but I always appreciated _____. This is something I need to do to grow toward who I want to be and what I want to do with my life."

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Never lose your cool...

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It is, bad managers should keep this in mind

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KPMG 1 it's a very small world.

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Honestly nobody has the right to “get mad” at anyone for making their own career choices. If they do, remember they aren’t worth the worry

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I don't grasp the problem in having overlapping networks as long as you are respectful in how you communicate it. Great chance to "kill them with kindness" by delivering a very cool and calm resignation. Then if they get mad that is largely outside your control anyways.

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Just quit. People with their “world isn’t that big” bs are clowns. Yes it is that big. And some rando manager at a B4 doesn’t have any clout to do anything.

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SC1 has it right. be clear. Be impersonal. Be respectful. Be kind. And if you have anything to thank him for, say thank you. Build a bridge you can use later, if at all possible.

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One addendum, if you believe the manager is actually toxic and there is someone else you can report it to you should. By all means still quit and move on, but you might save your unlucky co-workers who haven't got a new gig yet some grief.

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Kill them with kindness. Like other comments have said, it’s a very small world. You don’t want to put yourself in a bad light just because this other person is a jerk. You’d be surprised how many times I’ve seen people intentionally or unintentionally toss a grenade as they walk out the door, blow up in their face either immediately or over time. Keep it professional and focus on your excitement for the new role

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Some of you guys are too nice...I don’t worry about people who deserve what they get...

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Oh I see...I guess

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Yah outline the reasons you’re leaving - I found a better opportunity and leave it at that

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Agree that my manager has no right to get mad, but given what I’ve observed it’s quite likely. Thanks everyone for their advice - I think it would be useful to frame it in terms of appreciation and gratitude.

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This person sucks (the manager). Onward and upward.

Better idea go to your managers boss and tell him/ her that you’re leaving the company but due to your current manager’s temper and unprofessional behavior you didn’t feel safe giving notice. Managers and bosses shouldn’t be this unprofessional. And believe me your network if they respect the work you do will still respect you.

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