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My bf was unemployed for 6 months and just landed a really sweet job at Google so I wouldn’t stress too much as long as he is still using the time to be productive/looking for jobs. My bf used the down time to work on his physical and mental health — went to the gym every day, started journaling and meditating, etc
Hi op, I was laid off a while ago and found a job 6 months later. In those 6 months, I applied literally everywhere, but it just wasn’t working out. Sometimes it was the timing, sometimes it was luck. I even reached the final interview stage for a few positions and got rejected at the very end. And by no means was I under qualified for anything.
My point is that the job market sucks, and it’s hard to get a job. Your bf will most likely feel dejected and demoralized and borderline worthless (bc that’s how I felt). But if he’s genuinely applying and cutting down expenses, then give him a break. It’s hard out there 😔
You were looking for a job in accounting fir 6 months? Which market?
My husband lost his job last year due to some major cuts. He was unemployed for 3 months - I think it still haunts him. He felt less manly and less of a protector. Even though he got a sweet ass severance package, we had ENOUGH savings, and i was working, he still felt like he couldn’t take care of us. I would say, try to stay in instead of going out as much as you can. He may be under pressure to keep his expenses low but taking you out may give him anxiety because having you pay on top of him losing his job would just be too emasculating. Men’s ego are very fragile - you have to be let them feel like they can take care of you. They are ingrained to do so and robbing that away from them (which is what losing a job does) makes them feel useless. Be gentle, be kind, be loving, and above all, make him feel like he is the manliest man to you
Also remember that you need time to yourself as well. If you're working late nights every night and then spending every weekend with him, you could be wearing yourself out. It is not selfish to need time alone or with your friends.
But it’s making me nervous that this will also hold us back and also set him back in general.
I dated a guy who got fired. It was hard for us because every time something bad happened in our relationship- i.e, he got hammered three nights in a row, or hit my dog, or yelled at me- he blamed the the stress of unemployment, and reminded me that I couldn't be the asshole who broke up with while he was jobless. It was also hard for me professionally because I set him up with my contacts and he bombed those interviews spectacularly and now those contacts are pissed that I gave them a lemon. I am sure your BF can handle stress better than mine did, but I would still be careful about how much you help with the job search/getting him referrals. Also remember you are a partner, not a parent, and are not obligated to aide him financially or to babysit him. We broke up after about two months of this, and three months later he found a job. It put him a year back on the promotion timeline, but he's doing fine.
^ Could not agree more